I was with this girl I loved at a prom last Saturday. I first met her 4-5 years ago. I became friends with her, like, immediately. We both share the same interests, that being history, politics and acting. I began loving her half a year ago and tbh, it just sorta happened. So I decided to invite to that prom. Than, when it has gotten dark, I went with her outside, where I told her that I had feeling for her and asked if we wanted to be together. She replied that “we’re not the same”, despite our same interests. It felt like a whole world fell apart for me, it felt like everything around me fell apart. Which is why I went away, crying. I still fell depressed after hearing this, even though it was a few days ago. Which is why I’m wondering, how did it feel for you? Have you had any similar experiences?
I have been rejected before and it sucks, but eventually it’s not the end of the world. Can’t force someone to like me, as others can’t force me to like them.
It sucks, be sad about it for a while and move on is the best advice really. You made yourself vulnerable and that’s good, but unfortunately for you it did not turn the way you wanted it too. But that can happen and that’s okay. Sometimes there’s nothing more there.
It will be okay comrade. There will be other people to fall in love with.
I did when I was younger, but as someone who’s in their 30s looking back on it it feel incredibly lackluster and overall “meh”.
This is basically my feeling too. Had some pretty major emotional upheavals as a teenager, but it all just feels kind of silly now I’m in my 30s. I spent such a long time convinced I would love no one and die alone, but it was all just time wasted making myself miserable for nothing.
If there was any advice I’d share with younger people now, it would be to not be stubborn. These feelings are intense, but they’ll fade in time. You might feel like you’ll never find anyone in your life that will grab you the way that one person has - and you might even be right - but that doesn’t mean you won’t find happiness elsewhere.
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I’m sorry to hear that, comrade. I have had rejections and breakups before, yes. It is gut wrenching. I remember feeling like everything was over, like that was the end of the show.
I promise you, though, no matter how much it hurts, it isn’t over. Time will pass and you will get through it. You’re a tough person, I know it. We all are. Keep your head up, my friend. Keep me updated on how you’re feeling and feel free to reach out if you need anything.
I’ve been on both ends, and it sucks either way. I think I was like…15/ 14? This girl…Cherry…I was a lil weirdo, and I pretty much messaged this girl out of the blue if she wanted to start dating. Mind you, I’d virtually never talked to her in the past (we went to the same school). Obviously and naturally, she rejected me. I cringe so much when I think about it…
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Tbh can’t think of any advice but was in the exact same situation as you a long time ago while in school (knowing them for a few years and gotten fairly close, then confess and rejection). Took a few weeks to get over (with the help of hanging out with some friends) and remained friends with the person for a few years afterwards as well.
Heard some say that occupying your time with a hobby or something else might help distract or numb it out for the time being but talking it out with people might help too, with many of the loving members here happy to lend an ear to you.
You know the meme of the little pink blob steeping out of the box, getting punched, then getting back inside the thicker walled box? I’m that pink blob, but I never got out of the box and just kept building it thicker.
Oh yeah. I was left during my senior prom and it had a similar effect on me. I thought it was because I was ugly or awkward for years. It’s been pretty much a decade since that happened and only in the last few weeks did I decide that I would reach out to that girl. It turns out that she felt awkward dancing with me and my friends. She got scared and insecure and she left. I felt really relieved and glad I reached out and had a really nice interaction with her. It turns out she left more because of her problems and immaturity than anything to do with me.
What my anecdote shows is that it’s possible that the rejection you felt and received may be coming from a place of insecurity on her part. She might have been going through things that you weren’t aware about that prevented her from feeling secure enough to be in a relationship with you at the time.
It’s probable that the reason she gave you was only part of the truth and not the whole truth. But in reality, if you were friends before means you had plenty in common. That remains true, but why she rejected you, probably has more to do with her than with you.
Sometimes our hurt can come from a place of feeling like there is something wrong with us(our ego) when we are rejected, but we have to have more confidence in ourselves in order to realize that what happens between two people requires an awful lot of empathy and compassion for the people who we may feel hurt by. Obviously I’m only only talking about normal, non-abusive situations.
We should also realize that sometimes people hurt us because that’s how they are. They may not be nice people and we only realize that when we are rejected. I’m not saying she isn’t a nice person, but that’s for you to decide.
I’m sorry you got rejected like that. I can say I know exactly how you feel. You need to take a little sad vacation. My momma always says to take some set time to really mourn the loss of the possibility, of the person. Once that time is up, pick yourself up, dust yourself off and look ahead. Improve yourself, expand your compassion and realize rejection is an inseparable part of life forever. Nurture the emotional strength and resilience to be able to let that shit go and move on.
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