I should definitely sort my anger issues out
Anger is rooted in other emotions, I worked through my anger issues by dissecting what I’m feeling in the moment or immediately after, found out I have really bad anxiety and was responding to the physical manifestations of of anxiety (increased adrenaline and slow/stuttering speech) by getting angry. It was literally right in front of me but I didn’t see it until I did self analysis regularly for a few weeks.
How do you deal with anxiety?
I do a couple things primarily, I meditate every morning, every single morning, I wake up, brush my teeth, turn my kettle on, and meditate for 15 mins, usually to waterfall sounds. It grounds me to start the day, makes me feel mentally fresh and ready. If I have anxiety throughout the day, I will try to take a 15 min break from work and find a quiet place to meditate ( I use my ear buds).
I take similar actions that I did with my anger. Break it down, find the root of the anxiety, this helps first of all by giving me something to focus on, distraction is incredibly powerful in counteracting anxiety, especially when it is focused or bordering on a panic attack anxiety.
Second, it helps you figure out your triggers, the things that increase you anxiety, sometimes you can cut those things out, other times you need to kind of train yourself to look at them from a different angle.
For example, I have anxiety around heart related things, so if I get say a heart palpitation, I can spiral into anxiety (I got one just typing the word, it’s literally so stupid sometimes how anxiety works), I know that heart palpitations are incredibly common, most people get them every damn day and they are perfectly healthy and fine. When I get a palpitations and I feel my anxiety increasing, I focus on reassurance, sometimes out loud, that I am okay, they are normal, they are common, they don’t mean anything, hell you can trigger them by bending over, or coughing or drinking bubbly soda.
If that doesn’t work and I feel my anxiety increasing, I focus on quick relief methods, I will fill a bowl of cold water and dunk my head in it, not only is it refreshing, but it kills the adrenaline and calms you down, I do deep breathing exercises, go for a walk, etc, you figure out what your best tools are through trial and error.
To be honest, anxiety has a lot of potential roots and it’s hard to give complete advise without knowing your whole story, so if you have the means, I’d definitely suggest finding a therapist to support you navigating this shit. I hated the idea of getting a therapist for a long time, but having a guy I could bounce things off of and get feedback from once a week actually did help me quite a bit with my anxiety.
If you do not have the means I can see if I can get you some self guided therapies, they won’t be as effective but they definitely can still help. If you need help finding a therapist that isn’t shit, I can also help with that.
I see.
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Anger comes from impotence. Channel it into something positive to exorzice the bullshit from this world. Through friendship and labor, build what is necessary from the resources you have. Create a middle finger to this capitalist hellscape that helps people.
Anger is a catalyst for change. Don’t try to make it go away. Use it to change yourself and the world around you
Admittedly I don’t know your whole situation and story, but consider checking your blood sugar levels. AFAIK there’s a correlation
To me it is a trauma wound reflex just like many other things. A huge thing that helped me was letting go and genuinely appreciating and empathizing with people as often as possible, especially people I don’t like.
Whatever your case, best of luck working on it, it is possible to slowly work on it in my experience it just takes dedication over a long period of time and some mental/emotional healing.
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