• Erika3sis [she/her, xe/xem]@hexbear.net
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    2 months ago

    If by “romantic” you mean “I don’t want to use dating apps or do match-making or similar, because I’d strongly prefer to build from an acquaintanceship to a friendship to romantic love over a period of time, rather than commodifying having a partner into some sort of status symbol; I think this generally leads to more stable, long-lasting, and meaningful relationships”… Then yeah.

    If by “romantic” you rather mean “I experience romantic attraction”… Then also yeah.

  • DankZedong A
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    I guess that depends. I like to dance, cook, take long walks, explore the world and whatnot. But that’s what I enjoy when I’m alone as well. Even better when a partner is there to enjoy it with me and I would love to do those things for them.

    I guess you should also stay romantic towards yourself. Everyone deserves that.

  • Che's Motorcycle
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    “At the risk of seeming ridiculous, let me say that a great feeling of love guides the true revolutionary. It is impossible to think of a genuine revolutionary lacking this quality.” - el Che

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    As an aroace - nope. I like being friends with people, even really close ones. I wouldn’t even mind a queerplatonic relationship (it can be the same level of emotional connection and commitment as dating/marriage, but without romance). I like spending time with them, doing activities together, and generally having shared plans. But I don’t want to hold hands (lewd ik), make out, share a room/bed, feel the obligation to make classic romantic gestures to “keep the relationship going”.

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      I’ve been very slowly coming to terms with my aromantic side. It’s so confusing trying to figure out where the boundary between pure platonic and romantic feelings is, especially considering I’m also asexual, so sex isn’t a component.

      I wish I could be as sure as you. I currently consider myself aromantic, but it’s hard to not worry that I’m missing out on something wonderful, y’know?

      • Kirbywithwhip1987
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        2 months ago

        Wdym, how can you not be sure? Romantic attraction is different that sexual attraction and if you’re not feeling either, then you’re aroace.

        And what could we be missing lmao?

        • yewler
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          Well I mean the question is if I’m feeling it. Agreed, if I could figure that out, the answer is easy, but it’s not an easy question to answer for me.

          Occasionally it happens that I meet someone that I vibe with more than I vibe with other people, and I find myself wanting to be around them more than usual. It doesn’t happen very often, like maybe 5 times in my life, but it does happen. But every time it does happen, it feels like it might be romantic interest. But when I ask myself what I would actually want to change from how things are at that time, I can’t think of a single thing. So I’ve never actually figured out what that feeling is, because it does tangibly feel very different from my regular feelings for people. I just can’t figure out what it is.

          The reason I bring up the asexuality in this context is because that part’s real easy. I just don’t have a sex drive. So I can’t even evaluate these feelings from that point of view.

          So my issue is I get these feelings, like where I enjoy someone’s company a significant deal more than other people’s, but I can’t figure out for the life of me what that feeling actually is.

          • Kirbywithwhip1987
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            2 months ago

            That would be ‘aesthetic’ attraction I think, just when someone looks cool and you want to hang out with them.

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              OH MY GOSH that’s exactly it. I just looked it up. Holy hell thanks for giving me that terminology

  • SovereignStateM
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    A rather intense one. It has created far more problems than it’s solved, in my experience.

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        I read that as “aromatics” and now i suddenly have the urge to cook something with aromatic spices.

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          That’s an urge you should always indulge.

  • QueerCommieM
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    I certainly idealize nature, but I don’t know if I could right long detailed pages about it. The past neither. (/hj) Assuming you mean relationship wise, it sounds silly. I’m basically the same person with my partner, though unlike with others I sweeten my voice, ask them how they’re doing, and try to give them as much choice as possible when they have opinions or make choices they like when they don’t (unfortunately we both are opinionated on the exact same things, but mostly agree).