• Erika3sis [she/her, xe/xem]@hexbear.net
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    8 months ago

    If by “romantic” you mean “I don’t want to use dating apps or do match-making or similar, because I’d strongly prefer to build from an acquaintanceship to a friendship to romantic love over a period of time, rather than commodifying having a partner into some sort of status symbol; I think this generally leads to more stable, long-lasting, and meaningful relationships”… Then yeah.

    If by “romantic” you rather mean “I experience romantic attraction”… Then also yeah.

  • Che's Motorcycle
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    8 months ago

    “At the risk of seeming ridiculous, let me say that a great feeling of love guides the true revolutionary. It is impossible to think of a genuine revolutionary lacking this quality.” - el Che

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    8 months ago

    I guess that depends. I like to dance, cook, take long walks, explore the world and whatnot. But that’s what I enjoy when I’m alone as well. Even better when a partner is there to enjoy it with me and I would love to do those things for them.

    I guess you should also stay romantic towards yourself. Everyone deserves that.

  • bunbun
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    8 months ago

    As an aroace - nope. I like being friends with people, even really close ones. I wouldn’t even mind a queerplatonic relationship (it can be the same level of emotional connection and commitment as dating/marriage, but without romance). I like spending time with them, doing activities together, and generally having shared plans. But I don’t want to hold hands (lewd ik), make out, share a room/bed, feel the obligation to make classic romantic gestures to “keep the relationship going”.

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        8 months ago

        Wdym, how can you not be sure? Romantic attraction is different that sexual attraction and if you’re not feeling either, then you’re aroace.

        And what could we be missing lmao?

          • Kirbywithwhip1987
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            8 months ago

            That would be ‘aesthetic’ attraction I think, just when someone looks cool and you want to hang out with them.

  • SovereignStateM
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    8 months ago

    A rather intense one. It has created far more problems than it’s solved, in my experience.

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        8 months ago

        I read that as “aromatics” and now i suddenly have the urge to cook something with aromatic spices.

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          8 months ago

          That’s an urge you should always indulge.

  • QueerCommieM
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    8 months ago

    I certainly idealize nature, but I don’t know if I could right long detailed pages about it. The past neither. (/hj) Assuming you mean relationship wise, it sounds silly. I’m basically the same person with my partner, though unlike with others I sweeten my voice, ask them how they’re doing, and try to give them as much choice as possible when they have opinions or make choices they like when they don’t (unfortunately we both are opinionated on the exact same things, but mostly agree).