So today I am wearing heels. Not like pumps or anything, just shoes with heels. If anything, they look a bit like pirate shoes with a heel of 3-4 cm. But they make the sound that heels do when you walk in them. And you also have to have a bit of a stride when you walk in order to not look weird.

Anyway, I walked to work today, through the city. When I approached men, they suddenly seemed to drop everything and look around, probably expecting a woman in heels to pass them. But then they saw me. No big deal, right? Honest mistake.

However, some men decided it was necessary to call slurs at me. Gayboy, f*ggot, said I was not a man etc. All for wearing tiny heels. I’m a 185cm long hetero guy, it’s not as if I look defenseless or anything. But they still feel the need to do that. I just yelled back at them to shut the fuck up fucking wankers, and if they have a problem I’ll kick them with my heels on.

But it made me think what non hetero guys or women deal with on a daily basis. Why can’t they act normal?

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        if you use the mens like they apparently want they still stop you and embarrass you in front of whoever is nearby.

        there’s an even worse possibility when going to a men’s bathroom than just getting embarrassed

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            Do you ever fear getting falsely accused of assault? then maybe your case makes it up on the news and your story gets used for anti-trans stuff then it snowballs and suddenly being trans becomes illegal in the uk? small probability of happening but it sometimes scares me

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                I only wear androgynous clothing in public as well to avoid abuse atm.

                Same, It’s the reason I don’t go outside often, I don’t feel like “I” is going out

                Also, I just realized that most public bathrooms in Algeria are gender neutral (sort of) because except for schools and maybe some establishments, most public bathrooms I’ve seen are like several (or one) small rooms that connect to what’s outside of the bathroom and have a toilet and a sink. so, it doesn’t need to be gendered.

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      Man that sounds absolutely wild. Many women and LGBTQ+ people I know seem to deal with this as well.

      I dress flamboyantly from time to time and get called names for it by random people. But mainly because of how I look I don’t ever feel threatened or something. Just annoyed or mad.

      Can’t imagine having to deal with all that shit just for existing. Fucking people man.

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      Jesus fucking christ what country are you from

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      Yeah I can imagine. It’s just so weird as well. Why would you do this? What benefit do you get from this man? Just live your life in a normal way by respecting others.

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    Well if they look around at the sound of heels it should be telling enough

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    Good for you for wearing what you want and telling those guys off. Can’t wrap my head around why anyone would give a single fuck what someone else is wearing.

    I did my makeup and wore a dress and heels and such to a party for the first time last weekend and it was super fun, I wanna do it again lol. If only it were easier to find a cute pair of heels in size 13 mens.

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      “If only it were easier to find a cute pair of heels in size 13 mens.” Relatable, but at least my feet aren’t that big.