So I like plants and gardening. My appartment is full of plants and I have a small herb nursery in my window sill. I’m currently growing three basil plants and a pepper plant.

I go to social media for tips and tricks and as usual it’s full of people with grade A set ups producing lots of herbs and veggies and stuff. I started growing my pepper plant and after weeks I managed to produce a whopping number of 1 pepper. The weird thought that occurred to me was: I failed. I failed because my pepper plant isn’t as productive as the plants I see online.

Meanwhile: did I have fun doing this? Yes, I loved watching the progress of this plant. I did feel cool when I added my home grown pepper to my dinner. Isn’t that what hobbies are about?

How many people are out there quitting things because they aren’t immediately good at it because social media primed us to crave instant satisfaction through constant dopamine hits? Pick up hobbies, be bad at them, learn, have fun.

  • EmmaGoldman [she/her, comrade/them]
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    294 months ago

    I agree, there’s a huge problem with social media driving competitive urges in people. There’s this constant urge towards one-upmanship built into the platforms.

    Curating constructive communities is a tough process that takes ongoing care and energy on the part of everyone involved.

  • @Kir@feddit.it
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    294 months ago

    It’s not social media, but the general mercification of every aspect of human life that we are seeing under a last-stage capitlistic society. Social media is “just” one of the main communication medium and that’s why you see it like an ideological source.

    Fight against that, as much as you can. You should spend your time with things you find personally valuable for yourself and the people you love, do not use productivity as a worth criteria!

  • beef_curds [she/her]
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    254 months ago

    I’m proud of you and your pepper OP.

    I really like the tinker aspect of working with plants. It’s fun to figure out what your little guys want over time and give it to them. I’ll follow the instructions for sunlight because I don’t want them to wither immediately, but reading a guide and doing an advanced setup from the start feels like playing a game with cheats on. Yield is nice, but learning about your plants by working with them over time is just so fulfilling.

    Anyways, I want to see your herb box.

    • DankZedong OPA
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      44 months ago

      Unfortunately not at home so no herb box pics :(

    • @MeowZedong
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      84 months ago

      Lemmy is my only social media these days. I don’t miss the ones I dropped and life has only gotten better. Even with Lemmy, I don’t feel like I missed out on anything when I step away for a week.

      Drop social media and drop your plant pics on Lemmy bc I want to see! Animal pics too.

  • @knfrmity
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    234 months ago

    I enjoy my hobbies a lot more now that I don’t engage with those topics on social media. It wasn’t so much the constant dopamine hit of social media interactions but the constant elitism. It’s not a competition and it’s never going to be a job, if it were either of those things it wouldn’t be a hobby and I wouldn’t be doing it.

  • aaaaaaadjsf [he/him, comrade/them]
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    4 months ago

    This is a big issue with fitness content on social media. The majority of the creators are a bunch of men, and increasingly women, with unrealistic bodies, on anabolic steroids and performance enhancing drugs while lying about it, and giving out poor workout and diet advice so they can sell you some overpriced nonsense program.

    The problem with legitimate fitness content is that there is only so much you can say before you repeat yourself endlessly. So the big legitimate fitness YouTube channels pump out short content that’s just a repeat of their multiple years old videos, so they can remain relevant amongst all the fakes. Which is vastly preferable to the nonsense put out by illegitimate fitness influencers, but still a little annoying, that to get the good knowledge out there , you have to participate in this endless rat race to the bottom, that is modern social media.

    I just work out and do my own exercise program I made now, I don’t care if it’s suboptimal and not trendy/in fashion, I’m having fun and seeing results. You should do that too with your own hobbies, and it seems like you are so that’s great.

    • @CriticalResist8A
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      My goal is to have a home gym and I know it’s kind of an individualist dream, but one thing that was getting increasingly on my nerves were people at the gym (people I knew from there mind you, not random strangers) telling me my program was suboptimal or I should do things differently. Also this thing pays for itself after one year, two at most, compared to a gym membership.

      You do lose the social aspect but I’m fine with that, and you gain on the commute. If I had a home gym I would probably train twice a day lol, once for my workout and second for some cardio.

      • aaaaaaadjsf [he/him, comrade/them]
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        34 months ago

        I just do calisthenics at home now. I’m not going to a gym, can’t afford it and gave no desire to do so. If I do end up going to a gym in future, it will definitely be one of the smaller local ones, instead of something like planet fitness

        • @Achyu@lemmy.sdf.org
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          Could you share what your workout plan is like, if possible?
          Curious to know about the exercises n plans that people do, who are not ‘influencers’.

          I’ve been interested in calisthenics for a while now, consuming fitness content around it. But have never stayed consistent with it.

          • aaaaaaadjsf [he/him, comrade/them]
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            Well I’m focused on gaining weight and getting bigger muscles/muscle hypertrophy, so I don’t do many skills, just the basics done with high intensity, close to or at muscular failure in the 6-15 rep range. So definitely not high rep calisthenics. I’ve been training seriously for your about over a year and a half, in my early 20s, 70kg/154lbs at 185cm/6’1. Before starting, I used to weigh 57kg/125lbs. Once I get to 15 reps, I change out the exercise for a harder variation. I’ll put my current rep counts in brackets. All reps are pause reps with controlled negatives, this is very important so that you don’t cheat the reps by using momentum. I’ve added videos of the exercises as well.

            Day 1:

            Three sets of chest to bar pull ups (10), three sets of single leg squats (13 on each leg), three sets of decline push ups with elevated hands for a deeper chest stretch (12), and three sets of single leg calf raises with a deep heel stretch and an 8 second negative (11).

            Day 2:

            Three sets of single arm inverted rows (12), three sets of of partial rep Nordic curls (6), three sets of deficit pike push ups with elevated hands and feet for a deeper stretch (8), and three sets of tibialis raises for ankle health (15).

            Day 3:

            Same as day 1.

            Day 4:

            Same as day 2.

            After this, rest for one or two days, depending on fatigue. If really exhausted, rest for a third day.

            For me diet has always been focused on clean bulking because I was so underweight. I’ve found peanut butter to be very helpful in adding calories to meals. I put it in my oatmeal now, also lots of peanut butter sandwiches. Also rice is really cheap where I live. So I had a lot of egg fried rice with some protein like chicken or beans added to it, and cheap vegetables like carrots, with lots of spices and soy sauce for flavour.

  • @CriticalResist8A
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    I’ve been nursing a chili pepper plant (several actually) from seeds I brought back home. It’s going on its third year and produced lots of fruit in the second year, though they tend to be smallish (I think they could become bigger). I think I got some fruit from the hardiest stems in the first year, some of them grew really big and others are slowly dying. I didn’t know how many seeds I needed to plant so I just chucked a bunch in a pot and months later I have 11 stems growing lol.

    The great thing about chili plants is they’re hardy af and don’t really have predators, since capsicaine is their defense mechanism. Really easy to take care of, it’s like there’s no such thing as too much or too little water for these plants.

    Your plant is probably going to give more fruit next year. You can also add more stems to the pot like I did with mine, but I really only have two plants giving fruit. Harvest the peppers while they’re still green once they’ve reached an ideal size or size they don’t seem to grow out of, and let them ripen in a sunlit area. You need to harvest the fruit for the plant to make more. Don’t touch the flowers.

    I want to try NPK fertilizer but I’m otherwise a terrible gardener lol and it feels daunting to use the thing. I just give it water and while it likes having a lot of it, I find that I don’t have to give it all this water, it can also go several days without water (apparently it makes the fruit more spicy as well). Right now it’s inside for winter and so it’s not producing any fruit, but once I put it back outside when it becomes warmer at night it’ll start producing tons of flowers. It comes from a country where there is no such thing as winter so it could totally grow fruit year-round.

    Dry the peppers in the oven btw if you don’t use them instantly. They’re not like store-bought peppers and will rot very quickly. Just chuck them in the oven at 50-60C for 2-3 hours (yes, ovens go that low). They should still retain a little bit of humidity and not turn to dust when you pick them up. I cut them up beforehand so that I can harvest the seeds (even though they’re the spiciest part), so that I can hopefully plant those later. No idea if they’re fertile. You need to dry the seeds too, but it’s much easier, just leave them spaced out on a plate for half a day.

    • DankZedong OPA
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      Instead of fertilizer you can also use left over pasta water (without salt), or put some banana peels in a bucket of water for a few days and use that water or use coffee grounds. Lots of nutrition in it.

      • @CriticalResist8A
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        I’ve also heard you can use rice water if you let it ferment for a few days, but I tried that and the coffee grounds and it didn’t seem to do much, I was worried it was actually having an adverse effect.

  • TC_209 [he/him, comrade/them]
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    124 months ago

    You only grew one pepper, but it was the strongest pepper. Its seeds will create a line of peppers the likes of which the world has never seen!

  • @Jennie
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    I cut back on my social media usage massively last year. I’ve played guitar since 2018 but about 70% of my progression as a player has been done in the last 8 months or so. I’ve become more focused on writing and art as well as other interests that I have. I personally just viewed social media as a distraction if anything and I pretty much only use it to keep up with friends and to look for help/advice on whatever I’m working on at the moment.

    • @KrupskayaPraxis
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      Same, deleted Reddit, Twitter and TikTok off my phone and am now way more productive than I used to be

  • People these days had their spine broken by capitalism. Beiig bad is is literally the first step to being good. When I started modding Halo CE I could only modify bitmaps. Now I can do transparent shaders and I am in the first phase of making a map.

  • Tankiedesantski [he/him]
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    44 months ago

    I think that what you’re describing is definitely a problem but social media is a blessing and a curse. YouTube and Reddit and other internet resources contain a wealth of information, tutorials, and even access to experienced people who are willing to help you out with advice. Before all this, if you wanted any of this you either had to know someone, pay to take a class, or spend a lot of time with books figuring it out for yourself.

    There’s a lot of scientific evidence that says social media is bad for ones mental health, but I think it’s possible to moderate that effect by trying to see things as inspirational rather than intimidating.

  • @Addfwyn
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    I definitely think you are right. I consider myself a reasonably good cook for a home chef/hobbyist (I am maybe excessively beholden to traditional recipes, but it is what I like making), but I think if I hadn’t started when I was younger before social media blew up, I prboably wouldn’t be.

    My first dishes were borderline inedible. My parent’s aren’t great at cooking so I was mostly self-taught, there was a LOT of trial and error involved. I would have probably thrown my pan out the window if I didn’t turn out a perfect omelette the first time I ever cracked an egg. On the other hand, some of the cooking shows that highlight bad chefs were kind of inspiring to me, because many times they showed those chefs turning their kitchens/recipes around and doing something great.

  • @orcrist@lemm.ee
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    I feel the opposite way. Here I can get help for things. Good help, bad help, trolling help, all kinds. And some of it is useful. If you ask for encouragement, I’m sure a great many people would provide it.