My mom has been bugging me about this question ever since I started the process of getting on HRT. As a child there was no doubt in my mind that I wanted kids, but in the past few years I’ve been reconsidering a lot.
I finally got my hormones last week, so now the clock is ticking. I’d love other people in my situation’s thoughts on the matter.
Thanks :)
Not a trans, but I do not understand the fetichization over DNA, I plan on getting a vasectomy, there are lots of children who already are alive and suffering without parents, seems like an easier solution, but to each its own.
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Adopting a child is not the same as giving birth to one. As an adoptive parent you have to understand that the situation is the last resort and traumatic for the kid.
The kid (or teen) has their own rights and autonomy that should be taken in consideration when making these decisions. Adoption isn’t for the parents to have a kid, it’s for the adoptees to have guardians that protect them.
I will never judge someone who wants to avoid the weight of adoption.
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This is my main problem. People want to treat kids like buying a doll when in reality that’s a whole human who’s just experienced tragedy few people can imagine.
This is the driving reason people look for babies or infants and not older kids and teenagers.
It’s insane.
Maybe adoption is not what I would encourage (I’m not a terrible person, I swear). But systems that support family planning and economic stability instead.
We both agree that kids and teenagers deserve real protection and that’s important.
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I meant “trans person”, just went with “trans” because it’s shorter and where I live people usually say it that way.
I’m from Argentina so adoption is free, therefore I didn’t have that in consideration. As well with your second point, there are indigenous people here who were massacred and so on, but not so systematically as it happened in the US/Canada, today a lot of of the population are “mulatos”, if you will, although there is a white majority, that would be a good consideration, honestly; although at the same time one could argue that insofar you are providing them with an understanding of their culture and heritage, and so on, and so forth, a better life, it’s a million times better that growing in an orphanage. Regarding your third point, most totally valid. Thank you for thoughts and for widening my understanding of this situation for trans people.
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Ahh, I get it know, it makes sense, sorry, as you figured it is not my native language so I’m prone to commit a mistake here and there, I will try to keep this in mind next time. Thank you!
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