The Southern States of America have some of the most beautiful landscapes and climates this country has to offer. It also harbors some of the worst people and culture this country has to offer.

Having traveled all over the US, being to every state other than Hawaii and having lived in a total of seven, four of them being Southern States, I’ve had the chance to see what the country is like, it’s various cultures and the people that make up those cultures, and have a developed a strong opinion from my experiences.

That opinion: Fuck the South.

I vividly remember moving from a North Western state to a southern state as a child and experiencing the utter culture shock from the move.

In the NW, I was welcomed for who I was. In the South, I was not.

In the NW, I was able to be who I wanted to be. In the South, I had to be like them.

In the NW, you were judged by your character. In the south, you were judged by the cost and size of your material items.

This is not Red vs Blue States. This is the South vs the rest of the United States.

The utter amount of corruption in Southern governments from the Governors offices’ down to the local police departments is both appalling, but extremely apparent if you just stopped to actually take a look.

There’s a massive amount of suffering from those in poverty in Southern States because of the rugged individualism in the culture and the utter lack of empathy towards those they do not know. As long as they get theirs, that’s all they care about. In the Southern Culture, the mentality is not “we’re in this together”, it’s “not my problem if it doesn’t affect me”.

The South = “Me, Myself, and I” and always has been. Disagree? Then how else can you explain their history if not for their own selfish reasons?

Everyone’s main focus is themselves and their immediate family/friends. Everyone else just exists (barely) and if their existence is worse than the Southerners, then that’s their problem and the southerner will not lose any sleep over it.

The South’s education is abysmal.

During my time of puberty I was living in southern states.

I had no idea what sexual intercourse was or how it was performed until I was 14 because my health classes sex education was “abstinence only”.

I learned by watching pornography.

I didn’t know about the female reproductive system or how it worked until I was 16 when my girlfriend told me about it. When we talked about sexual intercourse and the reproductive systems of both men and women, we talked about solely about STDs and how losing your virginity causes you to lose a part of yourself (this was an actual lesson in the sixth grade, I shit you not. My teacher also talked about how pornography created Ted Bundy. Again, I shit you not).

It’s not at all surprising that teen pregnancies ravage southern states. How could it not? They purposely keep teenagers in the dark as a form of control. And if a teenager breaks out of that control and gets pregnant, then their punishment is to have the child and be a teenaged parent. But this isn’t surprising. The culture of the south has always been about controlling others. They literally betrayed and fought against the United States because of it. And even after they lost, they still could not accept losing control. The KKK was formed, Jim Crow laws established, and they repealed the rights of their fellow Americans. And this mentality still affects Southern Culture to this day with their weaponization of religion and identity politics. (Did you know the Department of Justice was created just to fight the KKK because they were such a big fucking problem?)

Southern culture is also a very cruel and hateful one. (I know! That seems ridiculous to think! But is it when compared to the rest of American Values?)

“What about Southern hospitality?” You may ask.

This is true. The South is known for being polite.

But being polite is not the same as being kind.

Politeness is the social norm of the south, but kindness is not.

Southerners only take kindness at face value. It’s not done out of the kindness of the heart, it is done out of egotism and the need to feel morally superior than those around them. Hence, they’re polite. Not kind.

In my experience, the southerner is the first to judge, but the last to take any criticism.

I could go on and on with little intricate criticisms like the priority of athletics over education (SEC is absolute proof of this), or how you wouldn’t be able to tell the difference between a picture of a village in a developing nation and small town in rural Mississippi, but I don’t want to be here writing all night.

Obviously the world is not black and white. I know not every southerner is a bad person. I know you can’t put everyone in a singular box as every person is different. But when it comes to defining the culture of the American South, it is an utter embarrassment of the United States and against what our forefathers wanted the country to represent. Freedom and Tolerance of others (Benjamin Franklin actively pushed for the tolerance of other religions in the US. Would the average Southerner do that?)

Our biggest mistake as a country was not completing the Reconstruction of the American South. It is because of this failure you still see confederate flags on the back of their trucks and monuments of traitors in the center of their towns. And now the democracy of the United States is at risk because of it.

Fuck. The. South.

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      The South has some of the kindest, most generous people you can find. As long as you are white, straight, believe what they believe, fulfill your gender role, hate who they hate, and vote how they vote. It’s the most widespread cult-like behavior I can think of…

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          Uh, okay? I’m saying they’re kind. Because they genuinely are! But only if you’re like them…

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          I’d say judging someone based upon all the criteria mentioned above is not polite.

          They are conflict averse is what they are. But quick to change even that.

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            You’re right, they’re not polite. It’s a polite façade that they’ll drop when they feel they are no longer talking to a civilized Christian.

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        As someone living in the south I get some funny looks when people find out I don’t vote like them. I look and carry myself in a way that causes a lot of southerners to start acting thier true dark self around me. The fake nice personality drops and they say some fucked up shit like I’m going to agree with them. Then when I’m like maybe don’t be a shitty person for no reason I’m the bad guy.

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      I think in US society at large it likely is an unpopular opinion. The south has successfully sold itself as: affordable, nice climate, with extremely hospitable people. My mom has a highly romanticized view of the south because it’s the setting of so many of the romance novels she reads. Not going to pretend she’s typical, but there’s going to be a decent chunk of people falling for that or the myth of southern hospitality.

      My experiences are limited, but “southern hospitality” has always come across as performative and insincere to me. It’s a superficial level of ineffectual niceties done for social expectations while actually requiring no true kindness to be displayed. A lot of people fall for the myth of it all the same.

      I’d bet that while a majority of people are not pro-south, the pro-south group (excluding southerners) is larger than the anti-south group — with a large majority of people not giving a fuck.

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          Yep.

          On paper she’s about as incompatible with the south as you could get apart from that. A liberal WASP that never practices religion (a WAS?). I used her as an example because I think she represents the relative indifference of much of US society on these matters. Politics starts and ends on election day; thinking about the South as a political entity and how their culture and political identities are tightly linked is anathema to her. It’s just getting too involved. Whereas she always hears how nice the people there are, and her books reinforce that idea, so it must be a wonderful place.

          That’s about the level of thought most people will put into it. “I heard they’re nice; the media I consume broadly comports that. Therefor I don’t hate the place.” Younger, online generations that are in discussions like this are atypical.

          I support making OP’s opinion a popular one, I wholeheartedly agree with it. I just suspect that it actually is unpopular overall (not on Lemmy.)

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    I lived in Chicago, in rural Michigan, Ohio, SoCal, and Idaho before ending up in the rural south.

    If you think that the north doesn’t have exactly the same problems as the south, then you aren’t getting out of any of the cities. Neo-nazis and neo-confederates have an enormous presence in Oregon and Washington state once you’re outside of Spokane, Portland, and Seattle. Far-right conservatives entirely control Idaho. The only reason that Illinois isn’t far-right is because of Chicago itself; outside of Chicago, the state turns pretty red.

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      The PNW has a very specific history with this, in the case of Oregon going back to how the state was founded, but it’s nowhere near as entrenched as in the south and most rural people up here have zero interest in such things.

      Also you are incorrect that it’s strictly rural. At least in the case of Portland, in spite of our reputation in the rest of the country, there’s always been a relatively visible fascist fringe.

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        I went to school with a black woman from Oregon; she experienced a lot of shit, and she was in a pretty affluent suburb. So no, not strictly rural. But also not a strictly southern thing either.

        I think that it’s reasonable to say that if you aren’t white, cis- het-, and at least Christian-adjacent, you’re likely not going to have a great time in most ofthe US.

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        Fair enough, but the overt racism, homophobia, et al. are more often a rural v. sub/urban issue. OTOH, sex ed. is very definitely a state level issue, but that still stems from the rural/urban divide. E.g., Texas is so fucking gerrymandered that rural areas–which are deeply socially regressive–are able to entirely control the state, despite places like Houston, DFW, Austin, and San Antonio being the population centers and being more broadly liberal, which in turn allows them to set educational policy that is based in nonsense.

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      Yeah, I was gonna say, OP has never lived somewhere like Atlanta. The South works like this: 1st world cities nested in 3rd world states nested in a 1st world country.

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        100% this, lived in Atlanta and Seattle, the biggest difference within the cites are food quality, traffic saturations, and level of comfort with casual conversation. And driving 2 hours east from Seattle feels REALLY similar to driving 2 hours west from Atlanta

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            Seattle has fresher seafood so if you’re cooking it it might be better. Otherwise the Atlanta food scene demolishes Seattles

            Edit: I’d be remiss to not admit that Seattle has a lot of great Southeast and South Asian food

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      I have done a couple of road trips that make me disagree with this. Yes I didn’t live a long time in these places but in every Southern small town I felt judged and at every small town elsewhere that vibe just was not there.

      You can’t wave this away. It’s there.

      This does not mean that there aren’t awful people and ideas everywhere. What’s being discussed here is that deep in the culture, being hateful of differences is baked into almost everyone. The South has no monopoly on it exactly, but the difference is certainly there and noticeable

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        I guarantee you that if you are an openly trans person, you’re going to have a bad time in rural Michigan or rural Ohio. You’re probably going to have store security following you around if you’re not white and you’re trying to buy groceries in Kalispell, MT.

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            Uh. You might be able to confuse Ohio as being close to the south, but Michigan? That’s solidly Yankee territory, several hundred miles north of the Mason-Dixon line.

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    Southerner here. I feel you. There’s a lot to love about the south. You mentioned the landscapes, for one. We have some absolutely beautiful country. And some of the folks out there are truly fantastic. There’s the good ol boys, we all know and loathe, but then there’s the actual good ol boys, backwater, country folk with a knack for redneck engineering who just want to get the days work done and go have some fun.

    But. There’s always a but. I think it is actually largely a red vs blue thing. I’m fortunate to live in a city and yeah, we have some suuuuper shit politicians. Shit politicians beget shit people beget shit politicians. It’s a self fulfilling cycle, but man, some of us are really trying to make a difference.

    Some areas are moving more and more blue, and in those areas things are slowly getting better. The times I run into that first group of good ol boys is getting smaller and smaller. It does still happen, but at least in the cities it’s getting to be the minority. I think we’re moving in the right direction overall, we’re just a bit behind the rest of the country. Y’all are all welcome in my little slice of the south, as humble as it may be.

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      Do you think a possibility of why southern cities are becoming more and more blue is because of the combination of several cultures from expats coming from different parts of the country and world?

      Exposure to other cultures has proven to be able to kill ignorance and intolerance.

      It would makes sense why those in position of power are doing everything they can to maintain that good ol Bible Belt culture we all know.

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        Oh definitely. Internet access and people from different cultures coming in have definitely made a huge impact. I’ll level with you, most of the hate is ignorance and fear. You don’t have any exposure to a culture besides your own, you just know about it through tales, and those tales that stick tend to be the scary ones. Soon as someone interacts with these cultures though, they realize they’re not actually all that bad, actually kinda like us. And then the door is open.

        This only applies to the common man, soon as there’s a position of power and a reason to maintain status quo, they’ll fight with all they have. We have a lot of rural areas, and a lot of politicians who are good at getting ignorant people to vote against their best interest.

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        Grew up a southerner in a city with lots of northerners, now a northerner. Yes to this. And yes to many having family members move away and showing them what the rest of the country is like from afar.

        That being said, and to the red vs blue comment, this is still a lot of it. I can say from personal experience, the visible lies and craziness of the MAGA movement, combined with the above, has swayed more than a few minds away from red ideologies, and made them more aware of those that aren’t like them. And we all understand that “knowing is half the battle.”

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        Quoting your original comment…

        “This is not Red vs Blue States”…

        Fucking hypocrite, go shove your opinion up your ass.

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          Dude, he didn’t bring it up. He was only asking questions.

          The Southern states are red states and Republicans are notoriously hateful of those that are different from them. They’re against helping their fellow man. It’s not a coincidence. If you can challenge any of these facts with real data, I’d love to see it.

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            That’s literally quoting their 8th original paragraph/sentence/section, whatever you wanna call it. They conflict their own original post.

            Strikes me as a troll post to stir shit amongst the rest of us. Don’t fall for it.

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              I’m going to go ahead and quote myself by repeating that he didn’t bring it up and he was only asking questions.

              He’s allowed to do that. That’s how you learn.

              Also, frankly, he hasn’t said anything even remotely controversial.

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                You didn’t read the entire post did you? I literally quoted it, word for word. 8th section of OP’s post, word for word…

                “This isn’t Red vs Blue States. This is the South vs the rest of the United States.”

                Please try reading the entire thing before attempting to argue. OP not only brought it up verbatim, they also proceed to deny it in comments.

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          It’s not.

          There are many red states, some I have lived in (ID, IA) that are just fine. Sure, I disagree with a decent amount of people who live in those states, but it’s not conservatism that I have trouble with. It’s the culture of the south that I cannot stand and am just stating my opinion which now I know is not a very unpopular one on this site now.

          Quit being so grumpy crouchy, my jolly ol friend 👉😎👉

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            I don’t identify as a state, I live in a state. I don’t identify as red/blue/left/right, etc, regardless whatever color or side my state is considered. All that mess is about the political views of the politicians running the state. I’m not a politician, and I rightly do not even care about politics in the first place.

            That has little to do with my point, OP themself initially said it’s not about red vs blue, so when did politics come into this? Oh yeah, that’s right, it’s when OP contradicted themself in the comments by mentioning and complaining about southern state colors.

            It doesn’t matter what region you go to, there will be some nice people, some mean ones, some smart ones, some dumb ones, etc. That’s not even politics, that’s just observing the differences between people.

            My first comment to OP attempted to express my nicer understanding side, while also being disappointed with their broad expression of hatred, and I got downvoted and criticized for that. Okay, there’s a flip side to every coin ya know. If trying to be nice and understanding doesn’t get anywhere, then what’s the point of even trying to be nice?

            I hope you at least kinda understand where I’m coming from with this comment, and I hope you have a good day.

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          That’s not what they espouse, but when someone offers it up they are allowed to agree without being a hypocrite. You’re the one showing your whole ass by going for a nitpick you lil nonce

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            That’s literally quoting their 8th original paragraph/sentence/section, whatever you wanna call it. They conflict their own original post.

            Strikes me as a troll post to stir shit amongst the rest of us. Don’t fall for it.

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                Yes. You can filter or block entire communities, instances, or users. It’s quite handy. The exact methodology will depend on your app, though.

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      Could you educate a European and explain what states are regarded as the south?

      Is it like Alabama, Luisiana and their neighbours, or does it include Texas and Florida as well?

      I’m guessing these might also be the least secular states as well?

      Thanks in advance!

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        Typically easy of the Mississippi River and South of the mason Dixon line, which runs north of Maryland, is a good estimate for southern. It’s really more southeastern states. Florida is definitely southern. Texas is kinda weird. They’re not in the region typically defined as southern, it they have all the traits.

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        The Southern States started the civil war to protect slavery, and after the war fought reconstruction attempts in order to preserve white supremacy as part of the social order.

        The stain remains to this day.

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    Good writeup, OP.

    I think any vaguely non-mainstream person in the US has felt the wrath of the culture you’ve described here. However, I think it would be more accurate to label this phenomenon as “Christian assholery” rather than just generally referring to it as “The South.”

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      I’m from the UK and went to visit my family in America for a few months when I was 20. They were nice people (to me), however I’ll always remember how they spoke about others and how they would make fun of the homeless, or talk about people behind their backs.

      I was always so shocked because I had never been around a group of people like this, and they were so nice to me, hearing them speak like that has stayed with me more than any of the positive memories I have.

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    climate? hell no it’s not beautiful. Just give it a few more years and it will be the front porch of hell 9 months a year instead of 6.

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      Wouldn’t be that way if a bunch of the country, especially a specific region, actually considered the consequences everyone would face instead of the minor inconveniences they would personally deal with.

      But again, “me, myself, and I”.

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        The mental gymnastics conservatives are going to do when Florida is finally submerged will be powerful enough to power all remaining homesteads in the United States.

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    I dunno man, I think this opinion in general is pretty popular. Maybe not the extreme rant version you’re doing, but the overall opinion, yeah.

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    I’m the 5th generation southerner and I can say I saw most of this growing up. I hate the bullshit “politeness” that is ingrained in this culture. I never felt anything said to me was genuine and I learned that everyone was talking behind everyone else’s back. Even worse when someone try to better their situation. It was known that “caste” you were born into would be where the community expected you to stay. Try to move out of it and well “that’s just not what we do, honey.”

    Growing up I heard 100’s of racist and misogynistic jokes and comments. It took awhile after I left to start to understand that those jokes are not just something that is part of every party and gathering. Materialism is second only to God as to how good of a person you are. Any one that came out of the closet was served a community death sentence. They were just “forgotten” about when invitations were extended for a party or holiday meal.

    Wow I didn’t know how worked up your post got me but thank you for it.

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      It’s kinda weird to hate on a medical procedure. Sure they’re not fun, but try not having the option and then see how you feel about it.

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    But being polite is not the same as being kind.

    Example: “Bless your heart!” = “You’re an idiot!”

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      Politeness is like a weapon. Made me remember a speech adjacent to the topic that I like. There’s a bit by Cleese that explains this feeling. He calls is “solemn” instead of polite. I think propriety falls into the same camp. Tradition as well. No matter what this thing is called it isn’t wielded with good intention:

      i think we all know that laughter brings relaxation and that humor makes us playful yet how many times have important discussions been held where really original and creative ideas were desperately needed to solve important problems but where humor was taboo because the subject being discussed was so serious this attitude seems to me to stem from a very basic misunderstanding of the difference between serious and solemn now i suggest to you that a a group of us could be sitting around after dinner discussing matters that were extremely serious like the education of our children or our marriages or the meaning of life and i’m not talking about the film and we could be laughing and that would not make what we were discussing one bit less serious solemnity on the other hand i mean i don’t know what it’s for i mean what is the point of it the two most beautiful memorial services that i’ve ever attended both had a lot of humor and it somehow freed us all and made the services inspiring and cathartic but solemnity it serves pomposity and the self-important always know at some some level of their consciousness that their egotism is going to be punctured by humor that’s why they see it as a threat and so dishonestly pretend that their deficiency makes their views more substantial when it only makes them feel bigger

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    Omg you fucking nailed it. As a person from the south who got the fuck out due to every single thing you wrote, I couldn’t possibly agree more.

    I know southerners who are wonderful in almost every way but because of this toxic awful culture you’re discussing, have an evil streak. You’re so right. I am not sure anything can be done about it now.

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      Yeah, I have my circle and I think they’re great people, but folks I distance myself from (including family) will occasionally just say the most vile shit. It’s not even like it’s all racist. There’s tons of classism as well. And just general rudeness.

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      If I could convince my siblings to move away with me as a unit, I would love to leave.

      But that’s not likely. Not because they wouldn’t like to, but it’s just not simple.

      In general I agree with this post as a whole. I’m not sure where I would pick to go, but I wouldn’t mind going somewhere else. I’ve mentioned this to my mom, who is the kind of person described in this post, and she suggests places like Florida, Alabama, Tennessee, etc. I mention California and she loses her mind. She won’t come out and say it, but she’s intentionally suggesting the reddest states while I would much prefer the bluest. Or at least I think Tennessee is very red, I lose track a little bit. Even my state is mostly blue now, but not this area. It’s very divided between the North half and the South half, which makes sense as it is on the northern part of “the South” (Virginia). So I have to deal with getting around red people and worse, rednecks, but at least we didn’t contribute to Trump becoming president)

      But I like warm and liberal and legal weed, so California seems like a good choice.

      Basically I hate it here, but if the alternative is going away from my siblings (which are not conservative assholes), I would rather stay. I fucking love them.

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        Just move to NOVA. It’s not that far and it’s an entirely different world. Plus you’ll make more money and your paycheck will go farther when you go anywhere else.

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        It’s true, most of what OP said never happened to me but I lived in a well developed, large, democratic city in the south and still do. But if I drive 10 miles outside the city limits it turns into a literal shit hole.

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    In the NW, I was welcomed for who I was. In the South, I was not.

    As a northern European I know nothing about this. But why are you allowed to generalize and discriminate against “southerners” and they are not against your “group”? Imo thinking tribally like this is really hurting all of us.

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      Because he’s not saying people in the south are inherently bad. He’s saying the culture of the south is. There are plenty of good people there, but the culture is rotten.

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        That’s just mental gymnastics, try saying “I’m not saying Jewish people are bad, it’s just that their culture is rotten”

        Edit: Actually don’t say that lol

        Actually I should clarify my point: Rather than attacking groups of people, attack patterns of behavior. You’re unlikely to change any minds whatever you do but there’s no need to fan a flame of instigation and division.

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          I grew up in South Carolina. OP is absolutely correct. If you do not believe them, or I, I do not know what to tell you.

          I can say that all areas of the South (they mean the Southeast, btw. So anything East of Texas) are historically fucking evil. My family here goes back over 200 years, I can conclude that the history here has been consistently the worst part of the US.

          Obviously, nearly anyone can experience discrimination or prejudice in any state, but it’s a different story when you have a history here of people who got into power by bragging about partaking in massacres of minorities, like Benjamin Tillman who governed SC and was a senator to Congress after that.

          Or you can look at more individual situations, like how Louisiana sentenced a 16 year old to death in 1947 for a murder that he never committed (look up louisiana ex rel. francis v. resweber). In that situation, Francis’ case only made it to the Supreme Court of the United States because the best friend of the person that was murdered happened to be a lawyer who took Francis’ case after the State’s attempt to electrocute him failed the first time. I encourage you to look into this case, as it is obvious it was framing a child for the murder of a white male, a murder likely knowingly committed by a sheriff from a neighboring town.

          You could look at the histories of discrimination and hatred and the use of people as hostages for political power, or even the civil war itself.

          You could also look at more recent examples, where the South has continuously acted against their own people politically and physically through violence or barring people from education. Currently, right now, TODAY, there is a place in South Carolina referred to as the “corridor of shame” due to how abhorrent the schools are there. Yet, the majority of people that live in South Carolina actively support this violence.

          Anecdotally, before I left the community I was able to talk with southerners, being a white AMAB person, where they would speak as though it was behind closed doors. The amount of extreme racism, hatred, homophobia, xenophobia, and anger towards anyone wanting to better themselves was overwhelming. The blatant disregard for human beings was never in short supply.

          Yes, there are examples of northern states doing horrible things to their people, and examples of northerners themselves doing their own atrocities. The difference is those atrocities were recognized as such by more recent generations. Today, people here still praise the past as a better time, wishing they could go back to Black codes or Jim Crow Laws.

          Most importantly, there has never been a single good thing the US has done that can be attributed to a Southerner or Southern state.

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            I get where you’re coming from, but this is a textbook case of “familiarity breeding contempt.” Prejudice is a national problem. Americans, regardless of regional distinction, have been historically prejudiced against all non-whites. You think Native Americans in the pacific Northwest had it easy when their kids were forced into Indian Schools? Or that the million or so Hispanic-Americans rounded up throughout the Southwest and unceremoniously deported to Mexico in Operation Wetback weren’t victims of systemic injustice? The particular brand of systemic racial injustice that served as a cultural foundation for the South is a historical product of complex social factors going back centuries, and it’s so vibrant in our imaginations because of an equally complex confluence of historical factors, not the least of which is that American audio-visual media of the 20th century has a fascinating obsession with the South and its history. A lot of this can be tied to the fact that at the time when film making was truly getting started the Civil War was distant enough to not be a horrific memory in the lives of your average American, but close enough to be a point of nostalgia. There’s other factors there too, of course, like the intentional spread of Lost Cause mythology, but there’s literal tomes of historical analysis written about that. But anecdotally, the first truly successful major motion picture was The Birth of a Nation, without which you don’t get a movie as monumentally influential as Gone With the Wind. I know I’m sounding like an apologist, but the reality is that while the abortions of justice in the South are tragic and extensive, they aren’t particular to the region. They’re just magnified in our collective cultural consciousness by virtue of complex historical, cultural, and technological factors.

            Oh, also this point: “there has never been a single good thing the US has done that can be attributed to a Southerner or Southern state.” My brother in Christ, Martin Luther King, Jr. was from Atlanta. The Civil Rights movement might have been national at the time of its closing, but it started as a distinctly Southern Black political and social movement organized by Southern black congregations. I know you’ll probably say “they wouldn’t have had to form a civil rights movement if the South wasn’t so racist.” Yeah…of course. But that’s the point: it isn’t a monolith to which you are only free to attribute purely negative qualities. It’s a complicated place with a complicated history and a complicated blend of cultures and peoples. Which is equally true of, well, most places, really.

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            Very interesting post!

            You could also look at more recent examples, where the South has continuously acted against their own people politically and physically through violence or barring people from education. Currently, right now, TODAY, there is a place in South Carolina referred to as the “corridor of shame” due to how abhorrent the schools are there. Yet, the majority of people that live in South Carolina actively support this violence.

            It sounds like there’s a lack of funding and opportunity that is creating a desperate situation. It’s no surprise then that psychopathic populists that are quick to blame “others” on their woes will rise to power, leading to a death-loop of corruption, poverty and hatred. I’m only speculating of course.

            Rather than point fingers, I wonder how we could increase trust in society, all societies…

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              Point fingers? Why are you being so dense?

              It’s not like the corridor of shame was some unforeseen possibility caused by a lust of lowering taxes. It is intentional, by design. It is no coincidence the schools are entirely for predominantly Black neighborhoods and counties. The schools are so bad due to the state intentionally cutting off access to funding for Black students. Obviously, they do not claim this is the reasoning. However, at the exact same time these students are discriminated against to an unimaginable level, other students are enjoying the luxuries of multiple $1 billion buildings at some schools, like in Summerville, a predominantly white area.

              But no, let’s not “point fingers” lmfao. Occam’s Razor is that you should never attribute to malice what you can attribute to ignorance. Well, this cannot be attributed to ignorance. The state of SC, and many states in the South, are full of malice.

              I could literally go on and on if you want, I study political science in the South. The hatred on display here is different from the rest of the country, it is not the same as prejudice or racism in other areas, though it does exist all over, of course.

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                Thanks for giving me specific examples, I agree that those things are vile and evil. I still think saying “southern culture is bad” is too general. These vile things you’ve brought up should be discussed without implying some struggling factory worker is evil because they happen to be from the south. Or are you only attributing bad things to southern culture while the good things these people do is individual brilliance or human nature?

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              Rather than point fingers, I wonder how we could increase trust in society, all societies…

              You don’t seem to understand. The South is like Nazi Germany, if they weren’t de-Nazified after WW2. It’s basically the same situation. They started a war to preserve their ethno-state, killing their own people to preserve their horrible ideas.

              Now do you get it? The culture is the problem. If you still don’t understand, look up the Paradox of Tolerance by Karl Popper. Intolerance can’t be tolerated.

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                “The culture” is not the problem, part of the culture might be. I’m saying you can’t generalize a whole culture like this. Again, attack specific behaviors not a whole culture.

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          Isn’t culture quite literally… patterns… of … behaviour??

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            Patterns was a poor choice of words. I meant more like patterns of specific behavior, such as bullying or domestic abuse. Be specific in criticism. If you have a kid who has done something bad, you don’t tell them they are bad, you tell them what they did that was bad (and why if possible). It’s the same with adults.