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Cake day: July 4th, 2023

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  • Reminds me of Jung’s theory around The Gaze, and how by ourselves we are our own subjects, capable of authoring our own paths, but as soon as another being is introduced and we’re subject to their gaze, their own aspect of being a subject necessarily forces some objectification upon us (and us on them). It’s interesting theory, and a good examination of why some people feel so incredibly uncomfortable with others around.






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    2 months ago

    Those are all awful, of course. I think the defining difference between assault and harassment are contact. So all of those would be assault, except probably the guy exposing himself. Things like wolf whistling, sexual comments etc. would be considered harassment.

    For what it’s worth, both are shit, don’t do either, but I think if we want a defined difference, that’d be the one I arrive at.





  • Realistically, I don’t expect people to just deny expressing criticisms. What I’m asking for is to read the room, and understand that it IS a legitimate concern for some people. If someone actively expresses that they don’t want to hear the criticism, you’re crossing from simple chatting to actively ruining something for someone.




  • I can’t disagree with anything you said here, so I guess it boils down to “read the room” - the situation presented by the person you commented under, to me, felt like it was talking about pretty obviously not-serious suggestions. Given what you just said, I think we’re on the same page, just approaching it from the opposite sides.


  • A lot of the times I feel that response comes from the person who likes a thing having not really critically examined something in the first place. What can seem like obvious flaws to someone who is examining the thing can be completely overlooked by someone just enjoying it.

    When another person starts coming out with “x is trash because y” it actually can rob them of that joy. Now they ARE thinking about those things. What was once a no-strings fun thing is now riddled with flaws.

    I don’t think there’s anything wrong with examining something critically, or just enjoying something without a critical eye. I’m just trying to understand the legitimacy of both sides.


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    You don’t have to be a yes man to entertain an idea and have fun with the thoughts with the people you’re coming to this social gathering for, without saying it’s a good idea. Like, if I said “aw man, let’s feed billionaires to Capybaras, it’ll fix all our problems!” It’s way more fun and engaging to get “dude, totally. What if we like, seasoned em first, maybe boiled em alive like lobsters!” than someone taking your clear joke, and going on about how that’s murder, and Capybaras don’t eat meat. Do they? I dunno.