• oscardejarjayes [comrade/them]@hexbear.net
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    9 days ago

    You just kinda gotta do stuff. Go the gym, pick up a hobby, join an org, go the park, go to a convention, etc. and then just be active and talkative.

    Getting introduced to new people by your current friends is also a neat strat

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    9 days ago

    I honestly dont really know, because never had more then two friend at a single time. Through political work I was able to met people. Common interests were mostly things like programming. The more focused in IT, the better in my case. This way I could make one or two friends.

    Some people are trying to choose possible friends depending on their political views. I am not doing it and advice against to do so. You wouldn’t get along with a chauvinistic person anyway. Also dont agitate. If political talk encounters, than feel free to have a friendly talk, but that’s all.

    Tbh it is a little bit like if you ask how to find a partner. You find one maybe through work or hobbies, but never be focused to find one, just do your think.

    Its only my experience however, other have probably made different experience’s, which are also valid.

    • GeneralOP
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      9 days ago

      Why do you advice against looking for friends with similar political views?

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        No, this is dont what I meant. I wanted to say, that it shouldn’t be important. If you say, that possible friends should have similar political views, than you will overlook other nice people. It should just not be that important, I think. Sometimes you meet a possible friend, which is not that political but also not a chauvinist. Some are also totally fixated onto a activity which you also like.

        I made the experience, that if you like someone and get along, you will also be able to talk about political stuff with that person. A friend of mine comes from quite bourgeois household, is not chauvinistic but also never asked herself some political questions. And since we understand each other good, wife could talk a little bit political and there was no repulsion when I mentioned Marx, Engels or Lenin. Rather interest.

        My wife was not political at all. She even had some chauvinistic prejudice towards some people, which were the result of her shitty environment. Today she enjoys read Lenin. Just dont narrow yourself into a corner, otherwise you wild miss the opportunity to meet good people.

  • StinkySocialist@lemmy.ml
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    9 days ago

    Consistently go to a group that is centered around an interest of yours. Consistency is key.

    Use apps like meetup to find these groups.

    If you’re nerdy/geeky Aunt like computers and making stuff or 3D printing. I recommend looking in the maker spaces. There a lot of them around. They are communities where people can contribute what they have and people get together and make stuff and learn from each other.

    If you’re kinky, I recommend looking into local BDSM clubs. I find the crowds there tend to be very leftist.

    Those aren’t your speed. Maybe something more basic like a hiking group. Maybe there are salsa dance classes at a bar/cantina near you every week. Doesn’t really matter what it is. Just find a group that’s centered around something you like. Then attend that group regularly. Do that long enough you will make friends.

    Source: I’m a 28 year old introvert and I have more friends than I have social battery to hang out with regularly

    I hope that helps comrade 👈😎

    Also remember most people suck so if you make a bad impression or piss some people off they were probably shitty people to begin with. Don’t let it discourage you. 😊