It looks like people are having a really rough time lately, in the aims of improving the mental well-being of our comrades please consider this post an open forum to vent frustrations about whatever is bothering you.

If you’re currently having a hard go of it, remember that we here at the 'grad care about you.

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    one of my dogs died suddenly today, found him dead on a small ditch (narrow and like 1 meter deep). i can’t stop thinking abt it, i really think i could’ve saved him but i didn’t go to work yesterday (small ranch outside city) and my coworker did go and noticed he was missing but didn’t bother to search for him… we found him today early in the morning and it definitely was recent since he didn’t stink and didn’t feel bloated.

    i don’t know if he got bit by a snake and fell into the ditch out of panic, or he just fell into the ditch and died out of panic since he wasn’t able to get out… 😢

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    I like hexbearers and I like the energy they bring but I’m getting tired of seeing pig testicles already tbh.

    • ButtBidet [he/him]@hexbear.net
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      Fair enough. The joke got old years ago. I guess it’s just one of those in-culture things.

      Edit: when it’s a shit post, you start to learn to check web links for PPB after while. Not to diminish your frustrations.

    • Frank [he/him, he/him]@hexbear.net
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      It’s one of our core cultural elements along with This Dope As Bear hexbear-logo, our favorite podcast citations-needed, and a few other things. There’s years of site culture behind it. It was how we shut down people who came in to the sub expecting the normal Reddit habit of rounds of pointless debate where people yell past each other and no one learns anything. A huge part of the site culture was refusing both the Democrats and Reddit’s civility culture and cloyingly false "nice"ness by being aggressively mean to people who came in trying to debatebro us, so bringing out something vulgar and shocking (but not that shocking by internet standards) was a good way to smack people with an awareness that they were not in Kansas anymore and would not get the usual treatment. It’s getting thrown around a lot right now because folks are remembering their dirtbag left roots and flexing a bit, having fun, and taking the piss. It’ll probably die down after a bit once things cool down. You might be able to block the link in your browser. I know that’s a thing you can do but Idk how, I’ve never done it.

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      Yeah, they’re good people. I just wish they would tone down on the hieroglyphs in general on our instance.

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    Currently on vacation, couldn’t enjoy any of it.

    1. The kid’s been lying to the whole family about using the (very expensive) medication for his skin condition. Also keeps lying about homework and just lazy around all day. We’re fed up with him.
    2. Partner has been jobless for months, no signs of getting any new job yet and money’s tight
    3. One of our cats got an inflammation on one of her teeth, and it’s gonna be expensive
    4. One of mom’s cat is in intensive care for possible hepatitis and pancreatitis. Also expensive as hell (and it comes from my pocket since mom needs financial help)
    5. Mom is in a very bad mental state after fighting with my sister and losing another of our cats earlier this year to diabetes. I worry constantly for her.
    6. I’m just a single ADHD person in my 30s having to care alone for a partner with depression, a mom with depression, lots of cats with 2 currently sick, and an ungrateful teen stepson.

    “Things are tiresome” is an understatement. And also, the job’s been annoying, but that’s the least of the current woes. To everyone also struggling, let’s stay strong together.

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      Sounds like you’re going through a rough period comrade. I don’t really know what to say about it. When I was down in the gutter, words like ‘it will get better’ lost their meaning pretty quickly, even though they turned out to be true.

      As a former ungrateful teen son myself, I’m sorry he’s putting you through all that. Speaking for myself, my behavior came from me going through a hard time myself with no way to vent, and that’s why I made things very hard for myself and my parents. I think that what I needed back then was being able to talk to my parents without judgement, as it would have saved me from a lot of trouble. Reaching out for me was very hard, but so was it for my parents as well. I hope you and your stepson can find a way to grow to eachother and help eachother through this difficult time.

      Feel free to vent over here. There will always be people listening.

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        We already do therapy, both individually and together, and he has plenty of opportunity to talk with us. We encourage him to be constantly frank with us and we are frank with him. The fact we already provide those actually adds to the frustration since even then he doesn’t show progress (even his therapist is sorta annoyed already). But I know it’s something he has to outgrow on his own, for his own good.

        About the other stuff, yeah, what I can do is power on through and talk with friends and family, even if to just vent. Thanks for the sympathy ✨

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    I needed this a few months ago. I don’t anymore. The bad vibes are transient and go away comrades. You’ll be fine, and stronger later on. Try to stay calm and focus on the positives.

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    I finally came to terms with my identity the other day, it was pure fucking bliss holy shit I cried🏳️‍⚧️

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      I remember making that phone call. The scariest thing I ever did in my life. No regrets. You got this!

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    I am currently sitting at a table for a dinner thing with our local democrats club. Shoot me.

    I lost my job last week. Paid $73k/ year. I don’t know what to do. I also can’t pass a piss test. So yeah. Shoot me.

    But hey I’m learning yet another programming language. Never been great at writing code but at least Kotlin is different enough from the various C-types that it’s actually been fun. If not a bit confusing since constructors and getters/setters are weird. I need to go back over abstract classes and interfaces and subclasses though.

    Shoot me…

    Update: I asked the folks at the restaurant if I could get my drunken noodles made vegan and it came with egg in it… Gonna go home and get stoned and chill for the night.

    • Catradora-Stalinism☭
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      You are never alone comrade. At the very least, there are many in the world who share your beliefs and vision for the future. We are uniting every day, every hour millions of people are radicalized closer to communism, and the capitalists cannot live forever. I cannot give more assurance than that, one of victory.

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    Recently started working at the union and I really like it. It feels good to be at the ‘front line’ of the struggle and so far, as an employer, they are pretty good. I will start a whole sort of law education in september, which will take me a year to complete (all paid for, of course). And I see this as a chance to improve relations between the union (which has a lot of power over here) and our party.

    Apart from anxiety, life is going pretty good. I also started to enjoy big city life again. For the last months I was sort of fed up with it but since last week it somehow turned around. It’s as if the city’s energy has found it’s way into my veins and it sometimes feels as if I’m walking on a cloud again. I had this feeling when I first got here when I was amazed at every little thing happening here. I’m glad this feeling returned, because I really think this city can be a positive surprise for the party in the upcoming elections.

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    I took a bus trip around Hawaii today, and I honestly forget that I ever thought of it as some paradise. It looks broken, homeless people are everywhere, streets haven’t been maintained in almost a decade at least, and most areas seem just… broken. Then you get to the cost of Waikiki, and suddenly there is trump tower, a 20 story resort, perfectly manicured gardens, and not a single faded line on the roads. The only parts that are even nice are where the millionaire landlords live in mansions and where the state makes room for tourists. Fuck this colonialist shit. I want to do so much, but talking to the brainwashed populace, I have almost no hope.

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    I live in constant pain because of exposure to chemicals, physical, and mental trauma that the USG is just starting to recognize through the department of veterans affairs. I lay awake each night wishing that I would die and not wake up tomorrow because it will just be more pain. Or I think that I deserve the pain; it is my penance for commiting an uncountable amount of suffering on the world in exchange for a bit of cash. I feel like I sold my soul to the devil but all I received in return is the understanding that everything will get progressively worse for the vast majority of the people on this planet.

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    The company I work for is actively being destroyed by the leadership and every decision seems based around making people leave to the point the facility collapses. I have had no luck finding a new job because the market is so saturated. Currently I’m just trying to get as much medical shit taken care of while I still have insurance before they layed me off, force me to quit by ending remote work (I’m too far away to commute regularly), or the facility just gets shut down. A common sentiment between the people I talk to regularly is “can our society just fucking collapse already so at least I don’t have to worry about having a job?”

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    My gf is really struggling with health stuff at the moment. But I recently got a cheap gaming setup, and she’s fallen down the gaming blackhole. At least she’s happy and not suffering when she’s lost in a game.

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    11 months ago

    I began working out three weeks ago after a six month hiatus and I already twisted my wrist doing power cleans.

    Off to a great start.

  • Giyuu
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    I just feel like there is no future in this country. Even though my mental health is better these past two weeks, I wake up before I’m done sleeping, even though I go to sleep at a better time. It’s so frustrating because it cuts into my ability to make progress on my hobbies like language learning and exercise. I don’t think I have slept 8 hours in over half a year, and at least a year and a half if we’re talking uninterrupted sleep.

    And I have to go back to school to start working on a real career (I have a degree but I don’t use it) but it seems like it’s pointless because this country is going down the drain. This is not a place I want to live in for much longer. I really don’t want to spend years at school in this country. It’s a fucking dump. It’s so depressing to hear about other countries with their cheaper housing and education costs.