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Be respectful. Everyone should feel welcome here.
Learn to disagree without being rude or disrespectful.
It can be difficult sometimes, since western social media thrives on collective outrage, and they knowingly ingrain this into us for years. But please do adhere to this rule, and it will make this place much more enjoyable.
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it’s not “offensive” it’s disrespectful to be overly familiar with people like that. Calling someone I know buddy is very different from starting out an argument with buddy with an online stranger, it portrays a tone of disdain
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there’s a difference between being a bit rude and saying slurs at people, you know. they are both disrespectful though!
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It’s not a ridiculous comparison because the person I’m replying to said earlier “wait until you hear the actual offensive words in the English language.” Slurs are obviously included in that category.
Additionally, it is certainly rude to call someone “buddy” or “bud” when they’ve repeatedly asked you to stop, which this thread is full of people doing. And if you were to call me “buddy,” you would be misgendering and infantilizing me and that would certainly be offensive. It’s a word that you can only reasonably call a 5 year old boy and one would hope there aren’t many folks like that on here.
Learn to read the room a little, huh?
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none of how rude something you’ve said is or whether someone perceives something you’ve said as gendered is for you to decide. that’s all something that depends on the other person and their experiences in the world. being polite necessarily means that you have to take into account what other people are likely to think of what you’ve said. I don’t know how to explain this any more clearly. What are you not understanding here?
I think we just have a different view of being respectful
And finally, you hit some truth. Yes, being disrespectful means different things to different people in different contexts and in different areas of the world. If someone turned to me in public and said “hey buddy can you pass me that thing”, I wouldn’t think twice about it. I’m guessing someone from Brooklyn (e.g. @BrooklynMan) likely calls people meets on the street buddy as a matter of course.
But go ahead, feel free to keep taking offense to anything you like. You’re not obligated to have a good reason.
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I said you escalated tensions. I really do think that calling someone buddy is overly familiar, I guess I can’t speak for everyone but the argument really seemed to take a turn downhill when you called Yog buddy I don’t think it’s outlandish to say that escalated tensions. I really didn’t intend for it to come off as an “accusation” was just trying to give some pretty mild push back that you yourself were disrespectful in an argument. I think Yog probably should get a temp for like a day if you think I’m being unfair
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I would find it offensive if someone called me a shithead, as well as disrespectful, while calling me buddy/bud is disrespectful but not offensive