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Hello y’all! I’m sky, and I decided to quit cannabis 3.5 weeks ago after smoking daily for 5 years or so.
I’d become so lethargic and depressed and was just trying to avoid all of my emotions and problems by being stoned 100% of the time. I’ve been in therapy all year and decided to finally come clean to her about it, and she was nonjudgmental but encouraged me to really evaluate whether it was helping me. I knew it wasn’t.
I’ve started some actual mental health medication, and that’s been so helpful. I’ve been able to go out with friends, have date nights with my wife, and started job hunting for the first time in years. There’s hard days where I really want to go smoke (my wife still does so it’s very accessable, unfortunately) like yesterday, but so far I’ve managed without.
I don’t have many people to talk to about this that understand, so I was really excited to see this community started!
I understand right where you’re at. Before I got deep into my alcoholism I was a chronic daily MJ user for years. I’d smoke at least 3+ grams a day just to myself. It killed my drive to do anything constructive and even for things that were fun. I too, also started getting anxiety and was experiencing depersonalization/derealization which made the world weird and unsettling and gave me this overwhelming sense of approaching doom the majority of the time while high. It wasn’t until my fiance passed that I finally lost my predelection for pot, it just gave me too much anxiety, especially on top of the grief I was already going through.
I’m glad you found us here. It’s not always easy but it gets easier and you’ll thank yourself for quitting down the line. Right now just yake it a day and step at a time, sometimes a moment at a time is how granular we have to get. However, if you’re truly commited and honest with yourself and give yourself patience and grace, you’ll make great strides.
It’s good to have you here. I pray for many good days ahead for you.
Hello everyone, I’m Kvasir and I’m an alcoholic. I had a real tough couple of years. My fiance died and I hit the bottle hard to numb the grief and the pain of losing her. I drank more in these past two plus years than I ever have before.
It was an everyday, all day type of madness that culminated in the second worst day of my life after her passing from a terrifying first encounter with delirium tremens hallucinations.
From that moment on the desire to drink was forever taken (blessedly!) from me. I have just two weeks so far, but these two weeks are the greatest I’ve felt in years and each day keeps getting better as I go.
I hope everyone who comes here finds a sanctuary that they can use to explore new tools and strategies to deliver them into the life truly want and need. Thank you all for joining this little digital nook. I hope you enjoy your time here ;)
congratulations on your progress! i wish you all the best
Thank you! Let’s do this 👍
Idk if i should make a post about it but how do you guys deal with social anxiety in events (parties, gatherings, reunions, etc)?
I’ve been dealing with anxiety since I was a child. Alcohol and drugs make it worse in the long run. What helped me was behavioral therapy and antidepressants. But that took years until I was finally mostly over my socialphobia.
What I want to say is that it’s a long journey. But it does get better and it does feel great. I wish you all the best with your recovery and you don’t have to go through this alone. All your comrades will support you in your healing progress.
For me at least, my tool is to use my breathing to center and ground me. Whenever I have an anxious moment, I just take a deep breath and focusing on breathing for a moment. It brings me back to the moment and centers me. I also try and remember how I feel whenever I choose to inhebriate to avoid dealing with my feelings and how crappy that makes me feel. Breathing really does work.
Hi, my name is Nax. I started drinking when i was maybe 13 or 14. Never liked the concept of alcohol but I was heavily addicted and was drunk most of the time. eventually I quit but my gf broke up with me a few months back and after more than 2 years of sobriety I started again but only for 2 months. I am now almost 2 months sober again.
I also started smoking in my early teen years but never much. after starting drinking again I also picked up this old habit. I’m not a heavy smoker, but I do smoke more than ever before. Up to 15 cigarettes per day when I’m stressed. The last two weeks I was able to cut it down to 3 a day. I plan on quitting in a few months, once I’ve graduated school. Before that I can’t see myself coping with that stress any other way.
Anyways, I’m glad about this community and hope we can become healthier together.
Congrats on the two months! As long as you’re moving forward one day at a time, you’re headed in the right direction. Sometimes it takes a few times of failing, falling off the horse to ride it into that proverbial sunset of peace. I wish you the best and many more sober days ahead.
When it comes to addiction give yourself grace. They say that you should only focus on changing one habit at the time due to the significant expenditure of willpower. Don’t feel guilty for the ciggies, in time you’ll be able to shift your focus when you can. For now focus on one positive change (aka abstaining from alcohol) and don’t shift gears until yoy’re entirely comfortable in your sobriety. You got this, you’ll get there, one day at a time!
Welcome to the community, Nax, I hope you find it to be a safe, positive space for support ;)
thank you so much for these kind words <3
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Solidarity, comrade. Good to have you here!
It’s ya Boi, I’m a year clean from alcohol and cocaine. Was ruining my life but got things turned around.
Awesome, that’s great, welcome! Hope you dig it here. Keep on making thoee strides, comrade!
4 days no alcohol, i did 14 days before relapsing for a week. this is definitely it tho. even if i relapse again, i’m doint this now.
also i can’t see hardly anyones posts on here, idk how instances work but it seems like i’m even missing comments from people that hexbear is federated with? not sure why. if anyone knows plz halp
That’s great, keep it going! And you’re right, don’t let relapse get in your way, just take note on what led you there, give yourself some grace and course correct. You got this, comrade! :)
Welcome to /c/sobriety, I hope you enjoy your time here and that it helps you 👍
I’m not quite sure, I’m new to the fediverse as well :/
i don’t think i can meaningfully interact with so many posts missing, but i thought i’d throw my shit in here anyway. thanks comrade!
Are you registered on lemmygrad? Maybe it has something to do with interacting through hexbear?
yeah thats definitely why, but i don’t understand why some comments are shown and some arent. hexbear is still federated with lemmy.ml but their comments dont show up for me, as well as others. im a dummy so im not sure whats going on
14 and 4 days are a lot already. It will get better and you will feel great. You are on the right track and should be proud of yourself!
