• Muad'DibberOPMA
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    The article talks about how many people, young women especially, have lost touch with their close friends during covid, and are suffering from alienation. Why was your first reaction to call them assholes?

    And yes hegemonic capitalist culture can produce and encourages ppl to be individualistic obviously, but its extremely insensitive to victim blame here, especially when it comes to mental well being.

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        Okay… what? Are they assholes or aren’t they? I warn you that we don’t allow edgelords here, especially of the gamer variety.

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            Cause most of these people are individualistic assholes who only care about themselves.

            They’re being an edgelord in multiple threads rn. Having autism is not a license to say harmful or reactionary things.

              • Muad'DibberOPMA
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                Where do you draw the line? Some gamer gets to say something transphobic, but its okay because they said they have autism?

                We have a code of conduct, and there’s no excuse for breaking it. It makes marginalized ppl feel unwelcome.

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                  I am Autistic. I don’t tend to use the word “asshole” much, but if I did, I’d probably word my comment exactly like this person did. In doing so, it would not be my intention to blame the victims by calling them assholes. Rather, I interpret that wording more like “Most of these people act like individualistic assholes who only care about themselves. It’s part of the culture created by capitalism in America.”

                  What I can definitely say is how a response like this would make me feel. It would absolutely crush me. I would end up being depressed for days if not weeks if just one person replied like that, let alone as many people as did so here. I’d be thinking about it years in the future, after everyone else has forgotten about it.

                  A more useful response would be to explain to me that people might interpret that incorrectly and tell me to re-word my comment. I would do so immediately upon seeing that reply,

                  • Muad'DibberOPMA
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                    Seeing their responses and interactions with ppl outside this thread, its clear they’re being edgy and emotionally uncaring.

                    “Most of these people act like individualistic assholes who only care about themselves.”

                    Even that charitable interpretation of their comment is very offensive. The article is about people suffering from alienation from their friends and social circles during covid.

                    Whereas the article focuses on caring for this group of ppl, the commenter decided to victim-blame them and call ppl who are losing their friends, “assholes”.

                    I asked them to clarify, in order to see if they really do think capitalist alienation should be blamed on its victims, but they haven’t responded.

                    Also I think you’re coming from an empathetic position, I apologize if I’m not handling this well. I just want to make sure we aren’t allowing the “dirtbag left” / various other edgelords on here.