About Palestine, when I asked him he said he didn’t have an opinion. And when I said that Israel is an aprtheid state that’s comming genocide he replied with ok cool. he said he doesn’t follow the news but with how persuasive the genocide has been I don’t think he can use that as a way to claim ignorance. I’ve been sharing stuff about the genocide since october 7th and he watches my stories. And there have been multiple discussions about it with him present (where he ignored it). The reason I finally got him to talk about Palestine this time was because I realised I have to ask him directly about it whenever it was brought up in our friend group. But then he said those things I already brought up.

He thinks that politics is an opt out and that you don’t have any responsibility if you claim ignorance or indifference. He treats it as other people’s hobby that he has nothing to do with. He’s the same way with other political topics. With black pete (a racist tradition here in the low countries) he explicitely says that he tries to escape the discussions so he doesn’t have to deal with it. He feels more annoyed by anti-racist demonstrations than by racism. But when I did have a discussion with other friends about abortion, he did jump in sometimes with pro-abortion views, which was nice and shows it is possible to get him to care. He said he doesn’t follow the news either, which is true, but I think he was saying that so he didn’t have to give an opinion on Palestine. But I was trying to tell him that following the news is important and I gave him a recommendation for a news account to follow on instagram (@hetnieuws_nl) and even sent it to him via chat. Later I asked him if he checked it out yet, but he said he saw it but didn’t click on it. My other friends in this group who are right wing say that he is left wing, but I corrected them on it, and said that he is right wing like them. His dad is a raging zionist and I think that’s part of the reason why he’s that way.

I think I will keep asking him about his opinion whenever a political debate is happening and not taking claiming ignorance as an answer. I think I’ll also share instagram news posts with him once in a while via instagram chat. We already share a lot of stuff to each other there, so that’s not a bad idea. He likes Irish music as well and am thinking to show him IRA songs as well. But don’t want to force my beliefs on him too much because I don’t want to push him away.

For my other friends, I do have political discussions with them. They are very right wing and whenever I have a discussion with them they treat it as just another fun interesting discussion. But I don’t view it that way. I don’t want to have a discussion about black pete or if abortion should be legal. And I think it shows they don’t care about what I have to say but treat it as a game to see who can come up with the best arguments. How can I counteract this? I was just thinking about giving my own opinions, saying they are non-negotiable and shutting the debate down after that saying I don’t want to debate it.

They are good friends and accept my gender identity and expression, I just hate their politics. But I’m glad they have at least one leftist friend to get them sort of out of their bubble. But I’m also glad I have another friend group with only trans friends where this shit isn’t normal.