semi- Serious question, Idon’t get it. Most of us get why the hegemonic gender system is stupid, why subscribe to the binary role you were assigned? Also, why do straight people exist? Maybe it’s just me but I like to look and feel like my own perception of what is attractive.
To me gender means nothing but anatomy. Identifying as a different gender doesn’t even give you more social freedom to self express. Society perceives your anatomy and if your self expression clashes with your anatomy in a manner which makes homophobes think you’re gay, you’re in danger because of this, not gender.
isnt that your sex? while gender is what you feel you should be?
The traditional answer is that yes that is what sex is, but gender is a social role that isn’t “what sex you wish you were” but relates to the various performed aspects of being male or female (etc.) Being really strict, there is “gender identity”, the gender you self-identify with, and “gender,” what society perceives you as (equivalent to if you pass or not).
Ideally only sex would be a thing and expression wouldn’t matter, but unfortunately gender sort of exists socially.