Most masculinity is performative anyway. All bark and not bite.

I have one friend who has sadly been claimed by the manosphere pipeline despite my best efforts. He constantly spouts toxic “masculine” nonsense in group chat, presumably to let us all know what a manly man he is, yet his actual life circumstances reflect the exact opposite of his words. He constantly makes creepy comments about women we either know or who come up in conversation but is of course long term single (this is if course all women’s fault according to Tate and JP), he dresses like a viking but has terrible physical fitness, and he has terrible financial sense and is constantly falling for mlms and crypto grifts.

I make a concise effort to drown all his toxic bullshit or with stories about all the awesome pies I’ve made that week, or how I painted my nails or whatever. Just trying to juxtapose his absolute clown car off a life philosophy with my just do you philosophy in a vein attempt to show him that the path to happiness isn’t strutting around like a bull elephant trying to be the big man.