We’re the good guys, they’re the bad guys. Isn’t it?
Whenever someone posts this sort of vague “people aren’t tolerating my ideas” post, nine-times-outta-ten, the ideas in question are just awful.
10/10 times somebody seethes at the idea of merely listening to ideas that they might dislike or disagree with is some extremist whacko who gets all their information from a heavily vetted and censored echo chambers.
Which ideas? Be specific :)
It literally doesn’t matter. Blocking yourself off from any ideas, no matter how tame or how extreme is something that’s both sad and dangerous. Willful ignorance is a poison. It’s not a sign of purity or strength, it’s a sign of fear and weakness.
Nah, sod off. We’ve fought wars over some of these “ideas”. We don’t need to rehash them until the end of time. We hear more diverse ideas from the diverse people who are allowed to thrive by removing a tiny handful of bigoted opinions.
Why do you want to silence those diverse people and their varied opinions? Are you scared of their ideas? Are you a weak little coward?
There’s nothing wrong with wanting to build a giant slide from the peak of Mount Joffre, OK‽
Like yours
What?
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Biden’s a good president
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I like cars
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Food isn’t expensive if you buy chicken/pork on sale
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Corpo greed / cost cutting / layoffs is driven by ruthless consumer demand for cheaper products over all else. Rather than pointing to faceless organizations looking for a boogieman, people should look in a mirror.
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Elections are won by voting
On some self reflection, #3 and #4 is pretty closely related. Something something no margin for small farmers I think. Ah well, everyone’s a hypocrite - including me.
- Subjective. But he’s not the worst.
- Liking cars is one thing, but we should not be designing our lives around cars. The more we cater for cars, the worse our living conditions get. The more we treat cars as the primary and required method of transport, the worse our society becomes.
- And 4. Individual action alone is simply just ineffective at solving the problems. Focusing on individuals rather than systemic change is the same as doing nothing. If we want to change behaviour, we have to change incentives.
I’m saying “individual” action is the problem. When an “individual” buys bottled water, or buys some cheap shit from Temu which will break in 2 days, or throws cardboard in the trash instead of recycling, everything becomes just a little bit worse.
It’s not an individual. Every time you see that word, you can safely multiply it by a couple hundred million and see the actual almost-daily effect of what an “individual” does. A billionaire flying one leg of a private flight 10 miles? Who fucking cares compared to the bigger picture?
Whenever I see conversations like this, I have to wonder, what is your goal? Are you trying to solve the problem? Or are you trying to find someone to blame?
Because if it’s the latter, then go ahead blame individuals all you like. It’s overly simplistic and ignores the fact that people’s behaviour is shaped by the systems they live under. It’s also completely and utterly useless at actually solving the problem. But by all means, you can waste your time as much as you like, just don’t expect people who actually want to affect change to waste their time humouring such stupidity.
Not sure if you’re actually trying to understand what I wrote, but I’m not trying to find someone to blame - I’ve already found them. I’m not trying to effect change - I’d become a politician or teacher if I wanted to do that. These are just observations.
And it’s interesting that “people who actually want to affect change” wouldn’t want to try to tackle the actual problems. I guess it’s easier to point to single-target big bad entities rather than a more vague entity like…everyone. Also it is easier to pretend people don’t have agency, isn’t it?
I’m not trying to find someone to blame - I’ve already found them.
… Please consider being a serious person.
And it’s interesting that “people who actually want to affect change” wouldn’t want to try to tackle the actual problems.
Wagging your finger at individuals is never, ever going to solve the problem.
Identifying systemic changes, and advocating for them politically, will.
I guess it’s easier to point to single-target big bad entities rather than a more vague entity like…everyone.
Again. You are focusing on blame and pointing fingers. Nobody cares who you want to blame.
Also it is easier to pretend people don’t have agency, isn’t it?
Nowhere has I said that people don’t have agency. I said that people’s behaviour is shaped by the systems they live under, which is a trivially true observation.
So if we want to effect change on a scale large enough to actually make a difference, we will focus on systemic changes.
You realize you two are agreeing with each other right lol?
All of these in the numbered list could add some serious dynamics to conversations on Lemmy. Yeah. You have identified our collective blind spots.
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Using imfglip and linking to it instead of hosting the image somewhere (Lemmy? Imgbb?) definitely makes you one of the baddies.
Also there’s several variations of this meme that you could have used that don’t use a violent abusers image. Like a similar one with Geordi LaForge from Star Trek.
drake is a violent abuser?
I think they’ve mixed up Drake, the rapper, and Drake Bell, the actor. Though the two look nothing alike, so maybe I’ve missed some news report.
Drake is a groomer.
Do you want to inform us in some words of his missdeeds instead of using a word that has lost all its meaning by now? No offense but if i would hate everyone that was called a groomer by someone on the web i would literally hate every single person in the world because thats where we are with “groomer” right now.
You can use any search engine to fine more if you want
Have you red that article of yours? He might be a creep but this is NOT grooming. Maybe stop using that word as it means something completely different.
Dating an 18 year old, when you’re 31, who you’ve known for few years isn’t grooming. Sure buddy.
And another 17 year pld says that dude in his mid-30s is a ‘good friend’?
Pretty fucking sus pattern lmao.
“Preparing a person for a position requiring skilled behavior, especially by providing opportunity for practise and guidance in making the right decisions.” Now id like to see how knowing a person is the same as preparing the person, in this case, for a sexual relationship. The act of grooming minors entails to prepare them for sexual acts in order for the abuser to have a willing object for their sexual gratification.
What you are having a problem with, and i would even say rightfully so, is the power imbalance between these people. Power imbalance can have many sources, lika age gap, power or wealth. Not sure which is the biggest factor here. But again, calling it grooming simply is the worst way to adress the problem you actually want to talk about and it is hurting victims of actual grooming. Just like calling the GOP a bunch of groomers when you would need to adress the corruption and their obvious steps towards dismantling the democracy. It is helping the offenders by derailing the whole conversation without offering any actionable steps.
What’s wrong with linking to imgflip ?
For me (using Jerboa), it automatically opens in an external browser instead of just opening the image in app.
Other apps might not have this issue though. Not sure why OP made the remark.
Sorry, I did not know that. Won`t happen again.
How dare the public not want to hear about us stripping the rights of gays, and trans people? ECHO CHAMBER! I JUST WANT CIVIL DISCUSSION ABOUT HOW BLACK PEOPLE ARE NOTHING BUT THUGS AND RAPISTS AND THEY SHOULD GO BACK TO AFRICA.
How about no dude? Go back to Truth Social and rant there. Nobody wants to hear about your eugenics, how a female comic artist hurts your browsing experience and you’re too contrarian not to spew misogynist rhetoric.
Progressives and most real moderates know better now. It’s all bad-faith arguments and dog whistles. The paradox of tolerance is real and people need to stop platforming insanity.
Meanwhile you’ve got a c/Politics mod defending the Daily Wire as a “valid alternate viewpoint.” Truly we’ve reached post-irony
God nothing is more annoying than brain damaged American progressives who think they’re intellectuals. Even if we ignore your strawman, the very idea that there are people who are close minded enough to actually actively refuse to even be exposed to any ideas that they might dislike or disagree with is insane. Keep in mind, the tolerance paradox says that intolerant ideas shouldn’t be tolerated, it doesn’t say that you should go full 1984 censoring and controlling information and turning authoritarian on anything you deem intolerant. The whole point of the paradox is to demonstrate that if a society wants to remain free and democratic, then it needs to oppose intolerance and authoritarianism in all its forms… via democratic processes. Otherwise, it’s another society that has become corrupted. The principles of liberty and democracy, as well as their universality, should never be abandoned.
I hate you. I despise you so deeply that I will use all my capital to move the democratic process. I am going to use the freedom you have given me to manipulate everyone into thinking you are the scum of the earth, unworthy of existence. I will demonize your actions on every turn. I will destroy you, your culture, and your very existentce. I just have to yell it long and hard enough and people will flock to my voice that I have been given on your platforms. And you will do nothing about it, even when you manage to expose my lies. It is you that is the cause of all our problems we face. Soon enough people just repeat what I say and believe me over anything you might utter. I have just convinced people of what you truly are. And their vote will sign your death warrant.
My point still stands. You can’t use hate, ignorance, and authoritarianism to defeat hate, ignorance, and authoritarianism. The only thing that will end up happening is you turning hateful, ignorant, and authoritarian. We have already seen this happen time and time again. It’s time for people to learn from history for once instead of just repeating it. Censorship NEVER works, authoritarianism NEVER works. The very reason why the people you described ever get into power is because of people like you who fall into a brainless cycle of purity tests, arrogance, and exploitation of power. You want to see bigots stop being bigots? Try talking to them. Not talk down to them, not convince them of anything, just try to understand why they think the way they do, how they came to be, and how they perceive the world. By understanding them you can find some common ground and from there you can introduce to them alternative ideas like tolerance, justice, coexistence, and peace. You can’t ban bigots, you can’t censor them, you can’t genocide them, and no amount of power abused will make them go away. Talking them is the only way. Keep mind talking to them isn’t a sign of weakness or a concession. Virtue signaling means fuck all when it makes things worse. Talking to people, having them exposed to new ideas and views, and treating people you don’t like (even if they’re vile) as humans is how a black man in the US managed to convince dozens of KKK klansmen into giving up their robes.
wrong
Because those people who gave up their robes saw that they were misguided and were open to new ideas. But some still have kept their hearts closed because some are just unwilling to have their convictions changed. KKK is still a thing, after all that talking. Raceism is still an issue, even when we tried giving them space.
Sometimes it is more than misguidence. Sometimes people just hate, and grudge. And when these people are given power they are able to spread their hate and misguide once more. And then we might have another Nazi Germany, where it will take a war to have it corrected. We didn’t get the Nazi’s to stop with just words. Are we able to have China stop doing it now, with just words? Are words helping in Palestina?
And in this day and age of the internet, even when we show those people the world that they can access. Show them how misguided their hatred is. They still choose to hate.
These words I wrote are in their hearts. Outside they tell sweet veiled words like ‘we must protect our children’ and ‘they are taking your jobs’. They will convince people against all facts, that the others chose this. That something genetic, is chosen. Never will they tell in those clear words what they truly want, because any sane moral person would see it for what it is.
At some point they manage to convince their followers that they are the truth, that anyone trying to guide them away to sanity is lying to them. And then the cycle completes and new unchangable hate-ist is born to spread the infection. See anti-vaxxers, see Q, see any conspiracy group that convinces their members everyone else is lying.
So, would you rather have a tyranny where people are allowed to just be. But where ideas of raceism and exclusion is censored.
Or a tyranny of the hateful that will one day knock on your door for telling the lies of inclusion?
Ehm… calm down, friend. You are reading quite a bunch into my post. It is exactly this stupid finger-pointing of 18-year old know-it-alls that ruins lemmy.
Are we though? Because I think we know exactly what you meant to stir up lol.
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Your strawman sucks, I’m not buying it
That’s what you plan to do on the internet all day? Just use buzzwords without understanding what they actually mean lol? Or do you genuinely believe that isn’t the root of most right wing estranged, convoluted, self-deceptive arguments? Because the Republicans being elected have been saying the quiet part out loud for almost 8 years now.
Gish gallop! Fallacy fallacy! Sealioning!!! And no, citing multiple sources is not gish gallop. I’ve been hit with that accusation in a personal chat recently too lol.
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cryptosporidium140
What do you think a strawman is? Did OP say any of that?
replyAre you referring to yourself as op or did you forget what account you were logged into lol?
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And no, citing multiple sources is not gish gallop. I’ve been hit with that accusation in a personal chat recently too lol.
Yes… yes it is. If they’re shitty sources, it takes times to research to debunk each one.
This isn’t limited to lemmy users.
This has absolutely nothing to do with Beef Stroganoff.
True.
While there’s definitely some of that going on, the people I usually see complaining about this kind of thing are not interested in the fair exchange of ideas. Rather, they’re upset that one of their dumb opinions got made fun of in a public forum.
The top part of the meme is actually a reason I like instances that don’t defederate from other instances. It allows me to see what those I disagree with and/or just don’t like might be saying/thinking at a certain period.
I too am an enlightened centrist, I must see both sides, for neither is annoying enough without the other
Hearing other perspectives doesn’t make somebody an enlightened centrist, it makes them knowledgeable and more aware. There’s nothing wrong with gathering perspective and context before judging something, that’s what people should always do. It’s a sign of wisdom, not ignorance. You would have to be mind numbingly ignorant to actually believe that being in echo chambers is a good thing.
In order to see the balance in all things I must accept the holocaust deniers and the Holocaust believers.
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no you dont understand!!! my opinion is correct, and anyone who dares to question it is automaticay one of the bad guys!!!
You are mistaken. MY opinion is the truth, always.
Actually, you’re both wrong.
I’m the main character, how could I ever be on the bad side?
You’re not, boss. You’re my childhood friend that saved me from a gang of rabid wombats and I would follow you forever using my unique skills to defeat your enemies in turn based combat.
it’s simple, the guys I like are the good ones, and the ones I don’t are bad.
For people who don’t want to click on the link:
yeah, im this 🤏 close to unsubscribing from any news related communities. the comments are mostly repetitive circle-jerks and antagonistic in-fighting. it’s really affecting my time on here.
Ngl same
I used to feel that way but man, after the 20th time in a row that someone either calling for nuance or unity with questionable individuals ended up being some sort of malefactor with an evil agenda has me completely burnt on thinking that way. You just have to accept that some people are irredeemable and not worth dealing with, and replace them with those who are actually out there for your best interests.
you either agree with me, or you’re in the other tribe
Yes… that’s how differing opinions work… they’re different from each other lol.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tribalism
it’s going with the “us vs them” mentality mentioned in the post. and I see you with your self-upvote there, I really love kbin for that transparencyYeah… why wouldn’t you self upvote? At least reddit had that right. Does ANY commenter on a public forum NOT want their comment more visible lol? It’s one of my biggest complaints about any Fediverse instance that actually allows ANY form of visible vote tallying.
I halfway was going to just drop it, but decided to come back and also explain it for any few that happened to trip across this time capsule of a comment years down the line, but see it on lemmy instead of kbin, and them getting confused about what I implied earlier
on some social media sites where you upvote yourself by default, it’s all fine and dandy since that’s the default and everyone already has their own - people looking over messages know it all beforehand and everything is upfront
on somewhere like kbin, where you have to go out of your way to do it, it can come off as manipulation to make a message appear to have a greater consensus than it would otherwise have. the next step up, and in definitely-ethically-dubious territory, is having multiple accounts to upvote yourself to boost your message
early upvotes/downvotes makes others that are quickly passing by a message feel more comfortable piling on one way or the other; group psychology is funky like that. it’s also a way some bad actors social engineer the system to get what they want seen to be seen, while burying others. I’m not saying you’re doing any of that beyond upvoting only yourself, but maybe this all explains a little better on the reasoning about its sketchiness on upvoting yourself on specific social media that don’t give a self upvote by default. It’s not a god-awful thing to do since a single vote is mostly innocuous, but it also isn’t a good look when someone looks into it and spots it
*doubt creeps into public opinion
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