I’m trans and I really don’t want to federated with these people if their mods are defending the -tard suffix and they aren’t getting de-modded and banned. I also don’t want to be federated with them if they ban critiquing western chauvinism.

Someone who is an admin and with more of a level head than me RN please talk to their admins about it.

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    (disclaimer, I’m not trans) yeah, my general attitude on blahaj at this point is “fuck 'em.” I understand that there’s a desire to bolster and grow the trans space on lemmy, but these people suck, and frankly I feel like the cool ones that we’d want community with would just make accounts here anyway if the two were de-federated.

    I understand also that most of the problem originates specifically from their 196 community, but if the broader blahaj instance chooses to allow them to act like this unchecked, then there’s no reason for hexbear to go out of our way to appeal to their instance.

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      I’m trans, and I completely agree that those people suck. I’m not sorry that they defederated us, and I honestly have no idea why you guys are trying so hard to make it work. Even when the admins claim that they’re trying to smooth things over, they’re still downright hostile to hexbear.

      Appeasing these people will not work.

      Edit: this is the justification for defederating us. Absolute dogshit. Just a random claim that we were saying horrible things:

      https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/501598

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          I’m usually not a fan of defederation. But those people honestly just make me sick. They sound like feds in a rainbow overcoat. I’m glad you guys were here to bring the issue to light again though, and seem to have brought some of their users with you.

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            same. I really wanted to stick it out in the name of trans solidarity but we can’t subject our vulnerable members to it. reading the posts there is bizzare – they’re to the right of every reddit trans community, and that’s saying something.