• Damarcusart [he/him, comrade/them]@hexbear.net
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    2 months ago

    I’ve mentioned before around here that I spent a lot of time in various juvenile institutions. As a young 18/19-somethin’ and off paper for the first time in my life, I got a job in a very white, liberal community and eventually moved there. When I would explain to people there what I experienced as a child and teen they literally COULD NOT BELIEVE my experience, and several accused me of lying or exaggerating. Specifically it was a lot of the older, 40+ crowd that accused me of lying.

    Probably haven’t had to go through shit nearly as awful as you, but I know that feeling of some people (especially older people) just thinking you are lying about your trauma. cuddle

    • GnomeGodsGnomeMasters [none/use name]@hexbear.net
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      2 months ago

      Thanks, homie. I don’t really enjoy comparing traumas, and see little utility in comparative analysis of trauma, but it sure wasn’t great. My heart hurts hearing that you or anyone else has had their trauma and experience denied — especially when people then take the line of, “well, surely, you must have done something to have deserved such treatment.” Actually, the only thing I did was be born to a poor teenage woman who I’ve never known, who couldn’t afford to care for me, and, well, one thing led to another and there you have it.

      Anyways, no person, child or adult, deserves the experiences endured by myself or my cohort in those institutions. It’s really telling that so many people believe there are people — children — deserving of such treatment. Of my cohort, I’m one of the lucky few that are still alive, not in prison, housed, reasonably healthy, and whose material needs are mostly met.

      • Damarcusart [he/him, comrade/them]@hexbear.net
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        Yeah, exactly, it isn’t some kind of “suffering olympics” or whatever, it’s about making the world a better place so this sort of stuff doesn’t happen to anyone, children especially.