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Cake day: June 14th, 2023

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  • I love America. I’m rather less fond of some of the people in it. The land is beautiful and varied. There is so much space here. And the constitution is really special, I think, though not perfect. The biggest flaw is people haven’t been taking politics seriously and have elected unserious people.

    I swore to defend it many years ago. At the time I was a kid just paying lip service to a required oath, swearing to a god I never believed in, but the truth is I do love it and I would fight for it, warts and all.



  • I think there might be a lot of value in describing it to an AI, though. It takes a fair bit of clarity of thought to get something resembling what you actually want. You could use a junior or rubber duck instead, but the rubber duck doesn’t make stupid assumptions to demonstrate gaps in your thought process, and a junior takes too long and gets demoralized when you have to constantly revise their instructions and iterate over their work.

    Like the output might be garbage, but it might really help you write those stories.
















  • The problem with small shops, and I have a lot of experience here, having spent my first ten years in a development shop where I was the only developer, you need exposure to other environments, other ideas, other technologies and frameworks in order to grow.

    I would be looking for other jobs right now. It might take a while in this environment (I’ve got 25 years experience and been out of work for 3 months, so it’s rough finding a job now) and you aren’t going to really grow while you’re stuck where you are, unless you are learning from an expert in a lucrative niche (and that’s still dangerous long term if that niche dies - I spent half my career on Lotus Notes and worked hard to redefine myself as a Java dev).

    If it takes you a year to find the right opportunity, it’s best to start now, right? That said, you’re a junior developer and it takes probably 5-8 years of experience to become a senior dev and command a reasonable salary.


  • I’m not going to address your question, but I will say I married at 23, divorced at 30, and married again at 37. And I’ll tell you I didn’t know what real love was until I married my second wife. I have 5 kids now (3 step) and while life is far from perfect, I’m pretty happy with what I’ve got.

    I can also tell you that your projection of your own lack of self esteem is incredibly unattractive. Learn to love and enjoy yourself and the rest might follow, but until then I can tell you that the way you talk about yourself presents a person that would be very difficult to enjoy being in a relationship with. Your defeatist attitude just sucks any kind of positive energy out of the conversation. You don’t have to change that and there is no guarantee of reward if you do, but you should probably acknowledge that you are in fact choosing to be far less inviting than you could.


  • When I was a young teen, I watched my grandparents’ neighbor die of a heart attack in his boat. He leaned over - I thought to get a life jacket or something - and his boat just kept circling backwards. Not much to say. It took the ambulance over an hour to arrive. There was a very small pool of blood, maybe 2-3 inches in diameter, on the floor of the boat.

    That’s it. Nothing exciting or traumatic.