• Flying Squid@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    Do you think you are ever at points pushing her into the life you want for her rather than what she might want?

    She might not want to shower. She’s still going to learn that showering is necessary because she will not succeed in life if she smells bad. No, she is not free to smell bad. Her brain is not developed enough for her to understand why.

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      1 year ago

      Have you ever tried explaining the reasoning to her and discussing it with her? And, do you remind her how she smells? Did you empathize with her response?

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        1 year ago

        Of course, but at some point you have to tell a child to do something. Because, again, their brains aren’t fully developed. This is a neurological fact.

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          1 year ago

          To some extent. But I think dictating how they spend 8 hours a day for 13 years is a bit extreme.

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            1 year ago

            When spending that time is the difference between success and poverty, I don’t see it as extreme at all.

            You seem to feel they should have full agency, so should they be allowed to consent to sex?

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              1 year ago

              When spending that time is the difference between success and poverty, I don’t see it as extreme at all.

              Not for the education, for the diploma.

              You seem to feel they should have full agency, so should they be allowed to consent to sex?

              It seems like you want me to say that- I already I explained my reasoning for not. I also don’t think they should be allowed to buy hard drugs or alcohol.

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                1 year ago

                I don’t see the functional difference between not being allowed to consent to refuse to go to school and not being allowed to consent to have sex if this is about freedom of choice.