For me this is painful.

I became a born again christian in my first year at University. I thought I’d found god…

Of course there was slight problem. I knew I was gay, and wondered what to do about it.

Nothing seemed to work, whatever I did, I was always gay.

Then it blew up in my face, and an incident occured at University. Shortly afterwards I walked away unable to reconcile what happened and being gay. I just wanted it all to go away and leave me alone.

Eight years later, I had the opportunity to sit down with a therapist and discuss what happened. She helped me through it, and I found an answer that made sense.

I stopped fighting being gay and came out.

My therapist was paid for by the company I worked for, who believed in gay rights. The company closed a long time ago, but they were called Digital Equipment Co. Ltd, a branch of Digital in the UK.

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      Yup. If religion solely informed what people did themselves, I’d have way less of an issue with it. You can’t have bacon because your god says so? Carry on. I can’t have bacon because your god says so? Now we have a problem.

      I would likely still take some amount of issue with the way it encourages anti-empiric thought as a defense mechanism, and think that it’s not good for people, bit I generally don’t go around complaining about people smoking at home or overeating.

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    I’m not particularly against the idea of there being some sorta like, deity or something out there in the infinite vastness of space n stuff! I just don’t really think we have any grasp on what they could potentially be so I don’t particularly follow any religion myself! To be honest though even if there was a god I’m not super sure I’d really be one of their followers haha

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    I’m not particularly fond of it. I usually only speak on Christianity, I was raised catholic so that’s my area to dunk on and to be honest, I don’t think there’s nothing there to benefit us, those groups that show up in prides and whatnot, that’s all empty, because at it’s core, Christianity as an institution was built like that.

    But I get it? I kinda get why some people stick with it, for hope or a need of a higher power, so I don’t hold it against them. I don’t understand how they do it, but I undestand why they do it, it’s their life, I won’t fold myself to appease their religiosity, but I’ll respect it as long as its reasonable.

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    I grew up christian, became and atheist. It’s just didn’t make sense, and the excuses fell away one by one.

    I have participated in earth based paganism. My wife grew up Pagan, and I like the kinship and community. She’s been an on-off member for a decade and a half with a group and they are good people.

    I won’t condemn religion in general, even Christianity. But I will be skeptical of anyone that brings it up without being asked.