This is so hard.

First, it’s OK to distance yourself from “I love you, but I can’t support what you are doing.”

My mother was devastated when I came out. But after seeing that I was serious about transition and she could either get on the boat or be left behind, she decided that she should offer some help with clothes and dressing nice. She introduced me as her daughter these days. She hasn’t said anything shitty in over half a decade.

Second isolation is ok for safety, but not a long term strategy. Be nice to people, ask for help when you can, and you should meet women that will help you. Seek out queer spaces and navigate them as best you can. A trans woman taught me 95% of everything I know about makeup. My wife taught me nails when we started dating.

I’m sorry you are being hurt. It’s not fair and you don’t deserve it. Feel free to pm me if you ever want to chat, or vent, or share your stories. I love yo tell my own.

I transitioned full time back in 2016. Pm me if you want to talk. I have shared my story with dozens of newly hatched eggs, and talked to hundreds of internet strangers questioning their gender on reddit.

My day is going well enough. Reading a trippy horror novel, House of Leaves. Looking forward to the weekend tomorrow. I am starting a new roleplay group. Wish me luck.

I wish you a swift and easy move.

Some distance might wake them up about you.

I grew up christian, became and atheist. It’s just didn’t make sense, and the excuses fell away one by one.

I have participated in earth based paganism. My wife grew up Pagan, and I like the kinship and community. She’s been an on-off member for a decade and a half with a group and they are good people.

I won’t condemn religion in general, even Christianity. But I will be skeptical of anyone that brings it up without being asked.

So, I’m pretty new to Lemmy and don’t have a whole lot of experience modding. Mostly all I did was remove spam from bots manually when I saw them. (Which became all the time and overwhelmed me)

Do we have any kind of guidelines besides don’t harass, no transphobia, etc?

Also, did I set my pronouns correctly?

My dad fell out of my life a couple decades ago and hasn’t made much effort to be a part of it since.

I think it’s great that you are spending time to learn about your daughter’s… Queer forrunners? Whatever we are to her.

Truly, I hope she doesn’t really need us. Supportive parents gives her the best chance for that, I think. I hope that by the time she is leaving school and building her own life and identity, being trans is just a tiny part of her, and barely even noticable, because the fear and the barriers that we face today have fallen away.

I hope she learns about trans day of remembrance from a history book, because we don’t need to hold it anymore.

I doubt it, but I so desperately hope that’s the world she grows up to explore.

Can I ask… What is Bird hell?

I appreciate your initiative in creating this community!

I think a general space for news, discussion, support, and celebration for transfemme people is delightful. I was also a member and commenter in r/mtf.

I hear so many times, and have experiences it myself, where families are cool with gay and trans people right until their child comes out, and suddenly it’s not OK and they start making excuses.

It’s just… Shit. Why would you be so nasty?

It’s just… Exhausting.

Every year I go farther to the left, and become more educated on queer stuff.

I doubt I will ever “gow out of it.” I’m a married lesbian. My wife and I want to grow old together.

I wish you peace and happiness, whatever that means to you.

Hi Evelyn. You can call me Dee.

I’m a redtugee, looking for a new home, liking this community.

Blahaj zone has grown by a factor of 10 since I joined.

Last week.

So I’m hoping things stay friendly and positive!

Thanks! I will do that.

I like the change.

My mother cried, tried to deny I was trans.

I was pretty shook. We didn’t talk about it for a long time.

I realized, eventually, that in her career in the emergency room, she has met a bunch of trans women that were not at their best. Women who were in pain, addicted, off their hormones, injured by pimps or transphobic attacks.

She cried because she didn’t want that for me. She hadn’t met the women I had. The activists, artists, lawyers, and veterans that were so strong and proud and inspiring.

She only knew trans people experiencing the worst times in their lives. When they were at their sickest, their lowest, and their darkest mental state.

I moved forward with transition without her blessing. I found providers and began HRT. I changed my name and eventually, she came to understand it was real. Through it all, she insisted that she would always love me, and she found ways to express her love with actions as well as words. Now she introduced me as her daughter and has told me that if I need to move to a different state or even a different country, she will help me.

So the story has a happy ending. I do love my mother. I never stopped. And I am thankful she has come to affirm me as her daughter.

She and my dad separated when I was in high school. I barely speak to him, but he was totally cool with my transition, a pleasant surprise.

I was briefly a moderator on an nsfw sub. I would be happy to help out.

Ah, seems a small price to pay, but I could be wrong.

Your dreamong brain came up with some beautiful wisdom.

SEO?

What does that stand for?

I found Lemmy in a comment thread wishing for reddit alternatives.

I worry that the decentralized nature of the fediverse will require some thick skin for a time. I have seen the sentiment expressed that we don’t want too many federations(edit: defederations) when the community is still so small.

If the community grows, I imagine we will see options for safe spaces, but there will need to be constant vigilance, because the change of a mod or a mod’s beliefs can change what content is allowed.

Still, it’s early enough for me to have hope.