Who’s this even for?

  • Des [she/her, they/them]@hexbear.net
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    while it’s rare but maybe (?) becoming more common i think there needs to be trans empowerment hypo

    not my thing although i do like asmr hypno but when i was still in “maybe it’s a fetish idk” mode i always hated how the sissy stuff was just like “we’re going to make you feel ashamed to be a woman”

    i kept looking for “you’re a woman now and doesn’t it feel awesome and cool!? now go be a dommy mommy or goddess or whatever” and it’s pretty dry out there

    (not shaming forced femme kinks at all they can be very fun. i’m just not into humiliation play)

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      My completely unresearched theory is that the reason things we fear or which are deeply emotionally fraught for us as individuals can feature prominently in porn is because it’s one route of many possible routes towards the end goal of an elevated heart rate to get the fluids moving. Basically anything that gets the blood pumping can work its way into arousal, and for these dudes, getting made into a sissy bimbo against their will probably fits the bill.

      Edit: supporting example: guys who feel deeply that your wife is your property and that a proper wife will find only their husband attractive --> fixation on cuckold porn in which your wife has sex with another man and you are forced to watch her fucking a guy who embodies all of your insecurities

      (This is all very Freudian I’ll admit)

    • UlyssesT [he/him]@hexbear.net
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      Maybe some cis people want to expand their horizons under a fantasy of “oh no I am now experiencing something new because I am hypnotized” in a plausibly deniable fantasy way.

  • UlyssesT [he/him]@hexbear.net
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    How come the “Social Skills Masterclass” doesn’t have (CW: violence)

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    “don’t stare at the camera like you’ve just stabbed someone and are waiting for them to bleed enough to fall unconscious” as part of its curriculum?

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      These guys really have some deep-seated porn guilt, sometimes expanded into a sort of guilt surrounding masturbating in general. Maybe I’m just a different sort of coombrain but I feel like jorking it (one’s peanits to be clear) is a gift to yourself and should not be the center of a self-loathing complex

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        4 hours ago

        As Hexbear’s resident appointed joyless scold, I think that the “NoFap” cult and especially the groyper “power level raising” tactic of consuming violent porn and deliberately denying themselves even the relief of an orgasm has done far more damage to westerners than porn itself has ever done.

        Jocelyn Elders was hated by chuds in the 90s and thrown under the bus by billdawg because she spoke the truth.

        https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Joycelyn_Elders

        • Poogona [he/him]@hexbear.net
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          I just don’t get how these dudes don’t die of embarrassment from attaching this level of spiritual significance to cooming. Like I can’t help but think these people are simply not prepared to handle reality if they can’t even develop a sense of humor around cranking they hogs

          • UlyssesT [he/him]@hexbear.net
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            I nonjokingly tie some of that “NoFap” chud ideology to the chud concept of “wizards” from years back. They tried to rationalize their own frustrations about not getting laid, felt a vague sort of shame about masturbating, and decided to make a creepy and self destructive cult mentality glorifying the one part of human sexuality they had some control over: themselves.

        • WhatDoYouMeanPodcast [comrade/them]@hexbear.net
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          I cannot overstate how much I believe that despite consuming so much bedia regarding how to be alpha, stud, and ruggedly individualistic Americans are weaker, more depressed, and less skillful than their European counterparts. If you are genetically blessed and determined (and likely from a legacy) in a sport that circulates billions of dollars, you’ll do better than anyone else, but if you’re not aspiring to play basketball or American football then it seems like Americans struggle. They’re less educated (see: literate), they’re not better martial artists, and they’re not better gamers. Even in the ticky tack whatevers like World’s Strongest Man Americans aren’t a stand out. While they won out in the Olympics, they tied some-controversy for gold medals. Not only in competition, they’re less pleasant to be around and they’re less capable as roommates.

          All this to say that I believe the attitude/culture that leads to nofap has done more harm than porn and given nothing tangible in return. If Americans even had a basic sense of cooperation there’d still be unions and the country might produce something besides MLM schemes, school shooters, and weapons for Israel.

          Edit: there is a sense, if I am to understand, that Americans are friendly and sincere when you’re in proximity.

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      6 hours ago

      reading this shit makes me feel like i am having a stroke. i had to stop and reread this so many times to figure out if it wasnt english or something. gooners are accelerationists

      e: this might just be a fetish video i actually cant tell