Could be a partner, roommate, coworker, or somebody you volunteered with. They could have stopped for any reason from leaving, getting sick or hurt or even dying to just getting sick of doing that one thing and stopping.

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    But also like your economy was golden compared to the current, at even fairly reasonable housing prices its still gonna be far out of most budgets for the foreseeable feature.

    How bout you try and be a good parent and give your kid their best life regardless of things out of their control?

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      I think most millennial parents are pretty well aware of how shitty the economy is as they’ve been dealing with the same shit for decades.

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      I’m well aware of how hard it is to get to anything resembling a healthy independent living situation in the US these days. It’s completely stacked against everyone not already in wealthy starting positions. We have other kids working to build more than a hardscrabble financial situation and we’re more than happy to help as we can.

      We’ll help this kid too. What I’m not interested in doing is providing them a roof, food, clothes, doing their dishes, and paying for their hobbies for the rest of my life. This is an intelligent, capable, and healthy young man. The issue is the attitude we’re seeing that he doesn’t seem to see what it takes to be an independent adult, even if he’s still relying on some help while he builds up the resources to get by in this incredibly shitty society we’ve allowed to accrete over generations.

      Yes, the economy was way better when I was a young adult. I also had some fortunate happenings (bought a house in a stable local market going into the 2008 banks fraud crash) and unfortunate ones (graduated college right into the Dot Com Bubble burst. 3 months of work, then layoffs into years of dead job markets, yay!). I am extremely scared for my childrens’ futures because of how anti-humanist the US has become. Letting this kid in question fuck around for a few years while I take care of everything for him and hope my next heart attack (that’s one of the unfortunate issues) doesn’t kill me before he figures out how to be an independent and self sufficient adult isn’t something that I feel will serve either one of us in a positive way.

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      You can say that to genX, but the bulk of genX’s kids are adults now (at least genX women aren’t having many more). We did have it easy. We got houses at prices that had only doubled in price in the time it took to raise a deposit. I bought my place for about $150k including the upgrades in 2001. The same place in worse condition now is worth 500k. The person I bought it off paid 67K in 1997

      I dropped out of uni and stepped straight into an IT job

      I met a partner through social contacts, a friend paired up with someone in their dancing club.

      But Millennials (probably your parents if they’re under 45) had it just as bad as you, but they didn’t have iPads as babies

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        They had it bad for sure but has the rate of decline really slowed?

        Like sure buying a house is impossible, but shit that was a recession or 3 ago - and every single one has just pulled homeownership higher.

        As easy as it is to say ‘back in my day’, I think its important to look at it numerically to avoid the mistakes of our ancestor’s (since at least baby boomers, but realistically probably even longer)