• DamarcusArt
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    4 months ago

    Yeah, being harsh like this sucks for them, it’s not nice to try and be friendly and have people get mad at the things you say, it hurts, but it isn’t done out of genuine hatred, just anger at what they are saying, and hope that they improve in the future. I do think this whole conversation will spark a big change in their behaviour going forward, hopefully a positive one, or at least helps them on the way to one. They seemed more close to proper self-crit than most libs I’ve seen, so I hope they reflect on this. Probably good that it’s stopping now, if I had kept going, it wouldn’t be out of a desire to see them improve, but it would just be bullying them. I should probably self-crit a bit myself and work on improving my self control.

    Good night!

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        4 months ago

        I meant more that it would no longer be bullying them to change their ways, but just mocking them to be a smug douchebag, being cruel for cruelty’s sake. That’s never a good place to be in.

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        4 months ago

        Maybe there’s a little daylight between “bullying” by being firm and telling people they should be killed - and then acting incredulous that they thought you meant it.

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          I’m not incredulous that they thought I meant that they should get beat up, because I did mean it.
          I’m “acting incredulous” about the fact that they behave in a shitty way, say shitty things, and are then surprised when people are mean to them. I “act incredulous” about the fact that they concede points, but since I made them sad, that’s all that matters.