[CW: Transphobia]
As a non-binary person, I now have to operate under the assumption that any trans person I meet has a good chance of hating my guts simply because of my gender identity (ironic). I really fucking hate that I cannot undo this mindset because of how common transmedicalism and enbyphobia in the trans community has become.
I can’t even see a post on social media that says something like “Trans Rights!!!” and not feel uncomfortable because my initial reaction has become “Does that include me, though? Do you support my rights?”. I will always identify as trans, but I’m heavily frightened by the possibility that transphobic attacks I experience are not just gonna be from mostly cis people.
Now, at every fucking turn, I have to ponder if I belong in any trans spaces or not. After going through harsh amounts of abusive transphobia from cis people, having trans people go out of their way to exclude me has done more to make me feel alone than anything else, and it’s absolutely not what I need right now.
There’s nothing wrong with wanting to blend in with cis people and be stealth and just live out your life as a typical cis man/cis woman would. The problem that comes with that is people forcing and pushing assimilationist rhetoric on trans people who don’t want to do that, going as far to support legally gatekeeping them because of the logic “If they don’t want to fit the typical gender-conforming, assimilationist, binary trans narrative that cishet people shit out, then they should be forced to live out their life as cis instead!”. It’s disgusting. No transgender person, even these diehard simps for cisheteronormative patriarchy, benefits from assimilationist rhetoric, whether they realize it or not.