Seriously the stories I’ve read about dudes threatening to drive to womens house and murder them or something over rejections is insane.

Have any of the ladies here had to deal with a psychopath like that?

  • Dirt_Owl [comrade/them, they/them]@hexbear.net
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    10 months ago

    Absolutely

    I’ve had dudes lose their shit at me for politely turning them down several times. So now It goes through my head every time a guy hits on me.

    I think that’s a big reason why a lot of women don’t like being hit on by strangers, because every time there’s like a 50% chance they will threaten you.

    Like I just want to get home from work, guy, I don’t feel like being called a removed today.

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      10 months ago

      Aye… sorry about that friend. It’s not in me to be mean to anyone. I usually get my feelings hurt at rejection, but I don’t threaten to harm a woman over rejection.

      Really you just deal with maybe hurt feelings for a couple days and then you pick yourself up and move on. Or at least that’s what i tend to do

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      People should write their info on paper more often. Meet someone on the train, have nice conversation, “this is my stop, here’s my number/insta/tiktok/whateverthekidsusethesedays, hmu if you’d like to continue this over drinks” and leave it at that. It’ll be clear you’ve asked them out, but they don’t have to decide in the moment, they don’t have to reject you to your face, and they don’t have to give you any personal info. You leave them in a position where they only need to take action if they’re interested in talking to you again, and they don’t have to expend any additional energy on you if they’re not interested.