You know the drill, come, vibe, vent, whatever you want! Is anyone else ready for winter to be over yet?

    • theposterformerlyknownasgood@hexbear.netEnglish
      8·
      10 months ago

      “To their white surprise” is a wonderful phrase And it’s nice to have a widely publicised work that doesn’t coddle white people. I don’t agree with the conclusions of the book, and I think it paints racial and ethnic issues with too broad a brush in many ways. But overall its a book that’s very necessary for The Discourse

  • jaeme@hexbear.netEnglish
    15·
    10 months ago

    Rant incoming(CW: Internalized homophobia, islamophobia, mental health)

    cw

    I’m back in university and I feel even more socially numb than ever. I have a lot of intrusive thoughts about mental health and shit. I’m never going to open up about it all to any counselers because my parents drilled into me not to talk to any mental health ppl or doctors or else they’ll “lock me up” again and throw away the key while they’ll have to pay and suffer (I was hospitalized once in HS due to similar feelings). It surfaced when one of my profs was like “you should talk to someone if you feel anxious” during their syllabus lecture and I just felt like complete shit.

    I’ve never seen any other ppl in my family actually deal with their mental health in the ways that I read about. It’s more respected in muslim families to shut up and keep all the emotional shit within the family and within yourself than it is to do therapy. I used to do therapy (weekly 1 hr sesh) but all my relatives would give me shit for it so I stopped.

    Idk i think most of this is just I can’t even envision a life as a happy queer south asian man without feeling like im a pervert violating male bodies (go figure). Like i literally look at my skin color and do a inner racism. Instead of admitting this to anyone I’ll just scroll on this stupid ass site and stress read theory and pretend im more clever than all those mental health professionals. Im also a spanish major which is just ripe for major imposter syndrome as I take classes with people who are about to graduate and I feel constantly inadequete with my abilities.

    It sucks literally not being able to articulate my queerness inside and outside of my family. I hold so many reactionary brainworms about mental health even though I should be a “progressive”

    I could find clubs which is probably the best thing I could do for myself. Yeah I’ll leave it at that.

    Being queer and brown is the worst shit ever

    Winter is fun, it actually isn’t as cold right now as it used to be back in the fall. I still hate walking in snow because half the time it’s actually ice and you’re now about to fall.

        • Othello [none/use name]@hexbear.netOPEnglish
          3·
          10 months ago

          depends on what youre interested in. Local comic shops host dnd games that often need members, and MTG. theres local theater everywhere. team sports are a great option like roller derby, and there are lots of queer friendly sports teams with chill environments.

              • Othello [none/use name]@hexbear.netOPEnglish
                2·
                10 months ago

                right sorry adhd got the better of me, um i think for vido games online spaces are gonna be the best. for borad games i would again go with you local commic book store. and book clubs… hmm, my best book clubs are always at socialist orgs lol, maybe your local library or bookstore? also facebook and insta suck but i hav found many great groups and events on both of them. sorry with i had more ideas.

            • lurkerlady [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
              2·
              10 months ago

              So I’m not poc but I search the site for game stuff (gamer-gulag ) and I strongly recommend Pathfinder 2e. It is way more queer and leftist than other ttrpgs and the source material has amazing queer and poc rep. They just released an adventure path set in fantasy China and includes Chinese mythological creatures and is written in a traditional Chinese play’s style in four acts. Whole book was written only by Chinese creators, most of whom were in China proper. Plus it’s the only unionized ttrpg.

              I learn so much shit from their mythology stuff, it’s so cool. Strength of Thousands is basically Hogwarts in fantasy Timbuktu without racism and transphobia attachments and similarly included African creators and folk tales. Their next book (war of the immortals) will be exploring Polynesian and Native American oral tradition and mythical creatures, and that’s being spearheaded by one of the directors at paizo who is an indigenous Alaskan two spirit person iirc.

              Oh and there is a fantasy Africa god whose edicts include violently killing settlers and her sacred animal is a panther. And there is a god of communism (Milani)

              Ok nerd talk over I’ll stfu now

              • Pluto [he/him, he/him]@hexbear.netEnglish
                2·
                10 months ago

                Sounds nice! I’ve played both Pathfinder video games by Owlcat Games. Pathfinder: Wrath of the Righteous is my favorite CRPG ever on top of it all. I really should play Pathfinder 2e, but I don’t know who to play it with. Is the community surrounding the TTRPG any good? Hopefully, most of the fans are at least alright.

                “Plus it’s the only unionized ttrpg.”

                I was aware of this, at the very least. I kept up with news surrounding it. I’ve kept up with much of the labor movement since 2020 (when it really kicked into high gear). I really should get the books right now to support them.

              • Othello [none/use name]@hexbear.netOPEnglish
                1·
                10 months ago

                hey your comment is very nice and relevant so I will leave it up, but if you comment in a poc only thread again I will ban you from the comm permanently. heart-sickle

  • OrionsMask [he/him, comrade/them]@hexbear.netEnglish
    12·
    10 months ago

    I don’t remember the context exactly but I was having a discussion with a Portuguese acquaintance about ethnicity and I kind of implied that we were both in the “POC” category. I was wrong, in hindsight, because it turns out Portuguese people are considered white, but christ, I’ve never seen someone be so quick to turn around and say “well, I’m white, actually,” as if being casually lumped together with a non-mayo was so offensive. Sometimes you accidentally catch a glimmer of what people really think and it sticks with you.

      • OrionsMask [he/him, comrade/them]@hexbear.netEnglish
        6·
        10 months ago

        Yeah, I was surprised too but I also don’t want to make excuses for being ignorant about the differences in cultures, which is what led me to make the comment in the first place. But I Googled it after and apparently it is something a lot of people confuse and get wrong. Maybe that was why he reacted that way and I’m being too quick to condemn, but you know, sometimes you can just tell.

  • Rojo27 [he/him]@hexbear.netEnglish
    12·
    10 months ago

    Putting in a request for a vacation for sometime in February. Not sure if I’m actually going to go anywhere since my dad is still feeling a bit weak from his hospital visit and I’ve been helping out at home along with my mom and brother. I kind of don’t really want to do another staycation though. The last time I traveled was 2018… fuck. Its nearly been 6 yearsobama-sad

    Recently talked to one of my friends from my old job. It’s been a few months, but he hit me up on discord. Went out and got a mic since he prefers voice chat, but I still haven’t gotten around to talking to him again.

  • Pluto [he/him, he/him]@hexbear.netEnglish
    12·
    10 months ago

    I was talking to another person who is POC and is really terrified of Gov. Abbot in Texas and him using the “nullification” excuse (pre-Civil War rhetoric) in order to continue to do whatever he wants and oppress other POC all the while.

    I told them that I’m Latino and I can relate and then realized that there are probably a lot of Latino/a people suffering in places like San Antonio, where they logically should be the majority (and increasingly making up the gamut of the state of Texas) but, through the curtailing of voting rights, gerry-mandering, policing, etc. aren’t really represented in the state. Frankly, where I live, I probably got it a lot easier than a lot of other people like me.

    White supremacy must be dismantled; “white democracy” just isn’t democracy.

  • Othello [none/use name]@hexbear.netOPEnglish
    11·
    10 months ago

    megans new song is so amazing. nicki is having a total meltdown online. delicious. this is gonna be all I care about all day today. i hope drake, pardi, and tony are crying.

      • Othello [none/use name]@hexbear.netOPEnglish
        9·
        10 months ago

        GOOD instincts, this all started when nicki dissed her on the last album UNPROVOKED saying CW , gun violence, sex offenders regerstry mentioned

        spoiler

        that Megan lied about getting shot and had big feet, the lines didnt even really make sense they were trash. megans response is AMAZING. this was the best line “These hoes don’t be mad at Megan, these hoes mad at Megan’s Law” which is AMAZING SHE KILLED HER. Nicki LITERALLY has like OVER A HUNDRED anti megan memes and tweets in UNDER AN HOUR, shes making a fool of herself on twitter, shes sharing police footage of megan after she was shot. making fun of her (dont look them up), which just makes her look like a monster. I truly hope this is her downfall.