there are many factors that make it difficult to learn about fashion before transitioning! it’s hard to determine what looks good on you when you feel like nothing does, and even if you’re willing to try fem clothes or do research while presenting as male there’s a lot of stigma around that makes it hard to really get a grasp on things! when a whole new world of presentation opens up to you it takes experimenting to figure out what styles you like and are affordable
Yeah same. I will give them the benefit of the doubt, but it is frankly rude and a common transphobic talking point(transtrenders) to state that transgender folks transition on a whim.
Its the, “your presentation is the most important part of you” for me. The idea that fashion could be what indicates that someone endagered themselves and upturned their lives on a whim is an insane take.
Insane, insensitive and just plain ignorant. Yeah I obviously want to become part of one of the most vulnerable and politicized demographics because it is fun to wear a properly fitted dress. Get fucking real.
Unless you’ve transitioned you have no idea how many of those details there are.
Plus, a lot of them are things you’re expected to have learned as a teenager, so there’s not so many explanations out there.
Plus, there’s unfortunately no substitute for making those mistakes and learning from them- something that we normally give teenagers some degree of grace over, but adults get judged for it immediately.
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there are many factors that make it difficult to learn about fashion before transitioning! it’s hard to determine what looks good on you when you feel like nothing does, and even if you’re willing to try fem clothes or do research while presenting as male there’s a lot of stigma around that makes it hard to really get a grasp on things! when a whole new world of presentation opens up to you it takes experimenting to figure out what styles you like and are affordable
I was going to suggest shopping in real life, then I remembered not everyone is unhinged enough to do that like me
even if you do, it still takes time to figure out a good style!
My main goal was to not die
Yeah same.
I will give them the benefit of the doubt, but it is frankly rude and a common transphobic talking point(transtrenders) to state that transgender folks transition on a whim.
Its the, “your presentation is the most important part of you” for me. The idea that fashion could be what indicates that someone endagered themselves and upturned their lives on a whim is an insane take.
Insane, insensitive and just plain ignorant. Yeah I obviously want to become part of one of the most vulnerable and politicized demographics because it is fun to wear a properly fitted dress. Get fucking real.
yeah, i was giving them the benefit of the doubt but you convinced me to remove it
especially after checking their post history
Thank you!
Based mod, all star poster Cromalin keeping it real.
Unless you’ve transitioned you have no idea how many of those details there are.
Plus, a lot of them are things you’re expected to have learned as a teenager, so there’s not so many explanations out there.
Plus, there’s unfortunately no substitute for making those mistakes and learning from them- something that we normally give teenagers some degree of grace over, but adults get judged for it immediately.
Plus, wardrobes cost a lot of money