I’ve been single for 5 years now, and not really in any rush to “settle down” or “find the one”, but I’ve been on a numerous dates, have dated several people for a month of two, but it always seem to fall apart one way or another.
I’m not ugly, and think I’m pretty fun to be around/positive, funny, maybe a bit eccentric, but nothing too bad by any means.
I have no idea why I struggle with dating and maintaining relationships, so I wanted to know if there was any way how I can see what it’s like dating me from the opposite perspective?
If you’re up for it, why not ask your past dates why they think you guys didn’t work out, or what you could work on as a person. People you’ve spent time with will probably give you the most objective take if there was anything other than “we just didn’t mesh”.
That being said, you need to be able to handle criticism (constructive or not) in order for that conversation to happen and benefit you
And if you’re the type that does not handle criticism well, don’t expect honest answers. So you should first determine if you are ok at handling criticism.
And if you’re that type, we’ve already found the answer you wanted in the first place.
That said, also remember everyone has their emotional baggage so if ppl criticise you, don’t take it at face value eather.
I know, criticism and therefore self-reflection is hard. I’ve been over overcompensating and self optimizing to the point that ppl tell me to start being more confident and basically try do more mistakes. It’s always a balancing act.
And part of his problem might be who he’s chosing to date. Bad partner choices aren’t necessarily going to give you helpful feedback.
You’re sending our guy on the High Fidelity path. Be careful OP, Cusak thought he wanted the feedback, too.