It’s a sunny day, we’re outside, good mood, drinking a coffee. I try to strike a conversation, my gf says its too early for philosophical discussions. I tell her we can instead talk about whatever she feels like. She says she doesn’t want to talk about anything. We weirdly sit in silence for a while. I tell her it’s weird to me, we argue. Is this normal?
You think philosophical discussions are normal conversations. God, that sound exhausting.
Great, so with you it’s either philosophical discussions, or arguing. I wonder how long she will put up with this.
How about asking her: “It it weird that I always start philosophical discussions?”
It wasn’t actual philosophical talk, she just called it that. It was a conversation about why people wants kids.
Which is a philosophical discussion lmao.
Haha. Busted.
Edit: I guess it is too philosophical for early morning talk
It’s not philosophical, but that might have been her way to try to say “too big topic”.
So you’re also somebody who thinks their GF classifies things wrongly. Charming. Btw, sounds philosophical to me. Or worse, pushy.
Tbh your comments sound pretty pushy. Have you noticed you start your statements with a generalization and an attack? “You’re somebody who thinks…”
Also, I didn’t get the classification bit. What do you mean?
Your comments about your girlfriend come off a little like that. I already commented, but didn’t address that because I didn’t know how to. I read this commenter as trying to communicate that, but without telling you, it’s unhelpful.
It does feel like you’re trying to read something about society into her preference to wake up quietly, but her preferences are as individual as yours.
I’m sorry, I thought you came here for advice.
Your GF tells you it’s philosophical. People here tell you it’s philosophical. You think we’re all wrong.
I didn’t say you’re wrong, and I don’t think that, either.
So you only thought your GF was wrong? I guess that’s better, but it would be much better if you could be more open minded in your relationship too.
I came here for advice and opinions, not to be scolded. You should really practice the way you give “advice”. I’m sure you’re aware it’s a different concept than giving orders.
Good lord, when somebody makes a suggestion you disagree with you think it’s an order. I’m done talking to you, I hope you’ll manage to find the help you need some day.