• AcidSmiley [she/her]@hexbear.net
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        10 months ago

        I never know if i should be more repulsed by the sheer amount of transphobia in that kind of comments or just completely baffled by how ignorant and clueless these people are. First time i saw that in the wild, it was by some guy who thought that it’s suspicious when his replies include pronouns like, i shit you not, he / him, she / her, they / them and any / undecided. Made him think we’re Russian bots with pronouns set to shuffle. Like mfer have you been living under a rock, there wasn’t even a single neopronoun or she / it catgirl in there! Any irl trans meetup i’ve even been to had a wider pronoun selection than that. When other users pressed him on that, he admitted that he had never talked to a trans person in his life, which is probably better for all the trans people he could run into.

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          When other users pressed him on that, he admitted that he had never talked to a trans person in his life, which is probably better for all the trans people he could run into.

          I don’t know. Lack of exposure to different people and cultures is often a root cause of hatred and LGBTQ+ phobia. To be clear, I’m not advocating throwing trans people at transphobes with literal or figurative catapults in order to fight transphobia. Just that ignorance and narrow world experience tends to breed such attitudes, when they aren’t adopted explicitly to try to control people.

      • forcequit [she/her]@hexbear.net
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        10 months ago

        I like the ones where they go looking for a fight in our instance, then use that as reason to defed lol

        I think we’ve done alright tbh

        • nickwitha_k (he/him)@lemmy.sdf.org
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          10 months ago

          I would say that also sometimes folks are mistakenly thought to be picking a fight and can get a bit singed. But I can live with experiencing a little bit of hurt feelings and char (Maillard reactions produce excellent flavor) if it means that people from groups that actually face oppression are safer.

          But, I have also seen exactly what you’re mentioning. And there are some users who are absolutely obsessed with painting Hexbears as evil and requiring defederation - I blocked one from shitjustworks because I got tired of seeing their obsessive postings trying for “gotchas”.

      • sharedburdens [she/her, comrade/them]@hexbear.net
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        10 months ago

        It’s so cool being told by liberals that I’m faking my gender and politics to score political points online when I’ve spent literally years trying to avoid being online, and it’s all because I have the wrong views about zelensky-pain or something

      • kristina [she/her]@hexbear.net
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        10 months ago

        even though socialism is a strong undercurrent in the trans community since stonewall, and there was even a book written about it by leslie feinberg in the 90s?