> The kind of person who posts on 4chan and thinks he deserves a gf
> Wonders why women don’t like him
Where do I post to improve my chances with women?
Does Lemmy and/or kbin improve my chances of getting a girlfriend?
A relationship is not a job or product, you don’t get them, you HAVE them WITH other people. People don’t have other people, although it is common to say so in colloquial language.
This is important and not petty, because language is like a sign post of beliefs and it is important for starting respectful relationships to believe that everyone involved is a person.
Now, with that knowledge, lemmy can help you, but it can also hurt or not help you.
It significantly at least improves your chances of being a girlfriend. At least going by user statistics
Frick he’s right
So there are girls here. Good to know.
get a hobby. take a shower. go to the gym
I have multiple hobbies (programming, art, etc.), have regular showers, and I don’t have any gyms in my area. What now?
Get a hobby you don’t do alone on your PC. One where you go out and meet people to do it, preferably one that isn’t only done by men (unless you are looking to date men).
For instance they could learn macramé or some crafting ting, go to yoga classes or dancing lessons, or what about baking or cooking lessons.
I can cook, and I’m so bad at dance I just make everyone else cringe at me.
Being bad at dancing could be an advantage you use their laughter and sympathy to break the ice. Anyway scout the local area and sign up for some silly stuff and see where that takes you.
Issue is, I live in a mostly died out community, and the only social hobby accessible to me is social alcoholism. Hungarian suburbs in areas with very high unemployment rival the American ones in badness, and we don’t even have awful zoning laws.
EDIT: Can I use the Fediverse for dating?
Rule of thumb: Anyone who says “I deserve a girlfriend” doesn’t.
I agree 100%
But I do think it’s weird how as kids we’re all generally told that “everybody deserves love” then you grow up and realize that’s just not true.
Why do we lie to children so much?
Deserving love is different from deserving a girlfriend.
Love is something you can spread around to multiple people. It can be anything from fraternal love for a co-worker you’ve gone through some rough experiences with, to romantic love that bonds you to one specific person.
Everyone deserves love by default, although some people hurt other people and stop deserving love. But, deserving love and deserving the 1:1 commitment of a girlfriend are very different things.
If you’re a kind-hearted, hard-working, trustworthy person who was raised with some fucked up beliefs, I’d say you deserve to be loved. Hopefully one of the people who loves you can take you aside and explain to you why your fucked up beliefs mean you can’t get a girlfriend. Hopefully that loved one can help you change so that a girl might want to make a commitment to you. But, nobody really “deserves” a girlfriend. They aren’t awards that can be handed out once someone completes the required steps.
That’s extremely well put and I appreciate and applaud your ability to explain it concisely.
Thanks.
Brick of text alert! But don’t sweat it since I more want to throw it out there and your comment got me thinking.
I’d say it’s a wholesome sounding, easy way out, same way we tell people to “just be yourself!” for dating. Probably we can shelve that alongside the tooth fairy, etc.
“Just be yourself!” is easy, makes sense, is watered down for kid’s consumption and also does have some good in that we don’t want kids trying to change themselves to fit others like I once did but the problem with that snippet is that it isn’t really actionable and leaves out the important part of being “the best you!” (even then that’s vague)
I was “being myself” many moons ago and it didn’t work in dating so I sunk into incel-land where it made sense to blame things I couldn’t change like race, area demographics, people who weren’t myself, etc. What I didn’t realize was that the “myself” that I was just plain sucked. While I was “nice”, I was an immature, anxious, awkward, very skinny, emotional wreck who had no idea who I really was. Metrics like height, penis length flaccid/erect, total max squat/bench/deadlift etc. were so much easier to quantify as something to “min/max” rather than “can I have a mature conversation about my feelings with someone?”
A long, rough, self-help-book-fueled journey ensued. Had to learn to love myself enough to not only accept myself but also try to become the “best myself” - and even then that was long road after the self-help books ended.
Generalized: “I deserve ________”. Nope. Probably not.
I deserve the same basic human rights as anyone on the planet
It looks like someone else took the original person’s post and added that after. So the author isn’t the one who actually said that… At least that’s how I interpret the green text.
That’s not how green texts tend to work.
If you use the term “manlet” you’re pretty much unfuckable, that could be part of it.
These posts are such schadenfreude to me as a shorter guy (“manlet”) who has never had any problems dating or getting women. The kind of people who make these posts and think courtship is some max/min game don’t realize that people can smell this shit on them. Their insecurity, misogyny, entitlement and racism just ooze out of them. It colors everything they do.
Posts on 4chan
Thinks watching anime is a good quality in a mate
He doesn’t just watch anime though, he watches objectively good anime, because he has a good taste in anime, something your average normie viewer just doesn’t have.
Did I mention that he has good taste yet? Because he definitely has good taste.
Eh, there’s lots of women who like anime and games who would like partners with similar interests. Just usually not a high enough priority over other faults, and it’s not like finding decent people who are fine with games anime instead of obsessed is hard.
That’s what I mean. It’s not the selling point he thinks it is
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I have good taste in anime
99.95% chance this is a troll.
Still a significant chance he can’t get a girlfriend, though
Nice of him to include unit conversions. Would want any of your international homies to be confused about how much of an alpha you are
A 13cm diameter peepee is quite… dangerous.
I can only go as far as 6-7cm anally.
Not with that attitude
cue lemmywinks gif
Is that why this is called Lemmy?
Its easier for people to have a tailor tape for measuring rather that a caliper, so I think 13 might be the girth.
13÷π = ~4.13cm diameter (excluding major irregularities)Also the calipers were cold and caused unfavourable shrinkage.
It’s probably meant to be circumference which would be about 4.1 cm in diameter, which is above average but not humongous.
I read “I deserve a gif” multiple times and I was so confused.
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Weight suspiciously missing… wonder why
Job suspiciously missing… wonder why
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Weight ? 200kg
Assuming the greentext is telling the truth this guy would be so muscular…
strong sense of morality
strong sense of honor
legitimately worried about “predators” in 2023 (definitely no problematic implications with that phrasing)
feels entitled to the love of a person he’s never met
ok
Also lists being white as a positive…
Yeah that is a yikes
holy shit I missed that, yeah, the real question is finding a woman wretched enough to deserve to be saddled with this loser
I’m positive I’m white.
…wait, is that not what you meant?
Having an ISO B6 paper size of dick sounds like it’s more trouble than it’s worth.
I’ve been told I am handsome
It doesn’t count when it was said by your grandmother and you were six at the time.
Wtf is a 7x5 peepee?
A soup can.
lmfao, is that radius or diameter?
Sounds like it wouldnt be pleasurable at all and almost like giving birth every stroke.
Probably length x girth, but that manchild is also probably lying because it’s 4chins
It’s 7 5inch peepees
Divide the circumference by π, it’s a bit over an inch in diameter. Somewhere between 3 to 4cm.
Wtf does having a strong sense of honor have to do with anything? Sounds kinda like you’re insecure.
It influences the good taste in anime. It also ensures he only uses his massive schlong when it’s truly called for, and never for evil purposes.
