this really sucks. she’s with someone else and says that maybe one day we can try again but not now. i’m in pieces trying to move on. i really thought things were going better than for a long time between us, but…

i am afraid that i’ll never find someone i connect with as deeply as her. she was my first and only love and i’m truly heartbroken. will it ever be ok again? does anyone know any good coping strategies or ways to deal with this?

  • AtlasEnglish
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    29 天前

    I was where you are a little while ago. Similar situation with things not working for a while, lots of dishonesty, etc. We continued living together for 4 months after because we didn’t have another option. It devastated me.

    Only advice I can give is don’t think about relationships for a while. I ended up in a short rebound with a friend I ended up hurting. I was using them to avoid confronting my feelings.

    Sit with it, it’s okay to feel lonely. Focus on continuing / making healthy habits that make you happy. Hang out with friends, that kinda thing. Love yourself.

    You will find someone else you connect with again, you will not be alone forever. It gets better :)

      • AtlasEnglish
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        29 天前

        Of course! It is miserable, no arguments there. Don’t pressure yourself to start feeling better, some day it’ll suddenly hit you that you haven’t thought about them in days. Eventually it’ll stretch to weeks. Eventually they’ll become irrelevant to your life.

        Wishing you well and I hope this is the worst thing you’ll ever go through :)