The fact that they literally think that me critiquing their language got them to question if I were either a “transphobe or ally” is very questionable. I’m literally a transfeminine (AMAB) enby myself. Nothing of what I said was trans exclusionary. The statement “Some AFABs are men” is literally very trans inclusive. Separating AFABs and men as two mutually exclusive groups, however, isn’t trans inclusive. It’s clearly a pretentious and performative attempt at inclusion because that’s functionally no different than typical TERF-drivel.
I got that feeling too. It sounds like they were too embarrassed to admit they just didn’t know what the term meant and just dug themselves deeper and deeper into a hole, getting more obnoxious and awful the more they refused to admit that they could not know something.