My kid starts kindergarten soon. I have already coached them on how to handle those situations.
This probably isn’t the best solution for a lot of reasons but I don’t really care because of how I grew up getting the shit kicked out of me, and it only stopped once I started fighting back.
I have told them if they get hit or bullied physically, to grab the other kid and beat them in their face as hard as they can.
It happened once in daycare where another kid tried to put mine into a headlock, my kid retaliated in kind and started punching the other kid in the face until they got separated.
Obviously this isn’t the best solutions but schools, as we see, don’t punish bullies as often as they should and the receiver of the bullying gets punished instead. I have been on the receiving end of this myself, even when I didn’t fight back.
I’m willing to go to court over this, and have the means to fight it if I needed to. Which kinda helps my decision to teach my kid what I have.
Now, all of that being said I have absolutely taught them that the first option no matter what is to try to walk away and find a teacher if you haven’t been physically attacked yet.
It IS 100% THE SCHOOLS RESPONSIBILITY to handle these situations. If this is the second time, then you need to get the administrators involved if they haven’t been already. If they have, then ask them what they are going to do to ensure that the situation is handled and doesn’t happen again.
If it happens again after that, go above the local administration to the school board. Do some research find out who the chain of command is and start following it up if necessary. Try to make communication over email, or document everything, have a paper trail, ask for copies of the procedures they are taking, make them physically provide you with an outline or plan of what they are going to do. Put their backs up against a wall so they understand that you are determined to hold them accountable for how they handle the situation.
I know the other child may not have the best situation, but you unfortunately don’t know if that is or isn’t the case, and your priority is your child first. It can be a bit painful to think about, but the reality is that you want to protect your child.
But for the extreme situations, teach or have someone teach your child how to defend themselves.
Just a note for those interested in the local play aspect of it like I was.
You don’t need to create an account to play the game locally.
You can just exit out of the first menu and play the scenarios that are available.