That’s like the one of the only ways I’ve managed to meet people (THROUGHOUT MY ENTIRE LIFE) and it sucks so so fucking much because finding someone who is reciprocative to that type of shit is so damn hard-especially in the era of instagram reels and TikTok

Is there a way to learn to socialize “normally” I’ve learned that I’m going to be very lonely if I don’t figure out how especially with my current career (god this just reminds me of how soulless my current job is)

I’m really starting to learn how my brain chemistry almost lines up with my politics (as in how I am foolishly passionate about how I would prefer everyone be forced to live with the same amount of resources and be forced to understand how it’s not about the community.

But yeah sometimes that shit comes out at inopportune times and I have legit seen it make my friends lose their jobs

But yes this still explains why I need to learn better acceptable small talk and how to approach bringing up that small talk without seemingly coming out of nowhere

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    Reading the comments i gotta say y’all gotta feel free to be more weird. Be yourselves. You don’t need to be anyone for anyone’s approval unless you’re living in their house.

    If they don’t like you, so what? You showed them who you were and if they didn’t like it they saved you the trouble of figuring out if they’re an asshole or not.

    I am a very antisocial person, maybe my advice is bad, but in my experience people tend to appreciate authenticity in people most of all and most people will respond positively if you just be yourself, as long as you’re not an asshole to them

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      but in my experience people tend to appreciate authenticity in people most of all

      This heavily depends on what social circle you are existing in, largely just how secure those people are in themselves

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        In the West**

        The Latin Americans I’ve met casually talk about politics allll the time, even in my American workplace (which makes the Americans look soooo uncomfortable lmao)