• being generous, there is probably some link with fear and arousal. like after a scary movie has concluded or stopped, when feeling safe maybe or as an act of life affirmation? I dunno. I played Silent Hill and it didn’t put me in the mood to get down. it just gave me the creeps. but I’ve had dates before where there was a spooky movie and it later lead to some honking.

    more broadly, I do not get the need to make everything eroticized. I don’t want to be prudish, but it seems like far too much already is or at least trying to provoke me into feeling “turned on” to sell me a beer or a burger or a Chevy or a watch. of course, I’m an old now, so I’m not the walking hardon I was when I was 19 anymore either. I just tend to assume stuff I don’t get is meant for a different demographic anymore.