Couple months ago I met a woman who works at a dispensary I visit about once a week. We hit it off really well. Despite trying to just keep it casual sex, and that only, I ended up developing some feelings for her. She confessed the same to me. I even introduced her to my teenaged daughter, for fucks sake.
I ran into her this evening at a gas station, with another guy, who turns out to be her husband. They’ve been married five years, and have two children together, ages 4 and 2. Finding out they have kids just made me feel disgusting.
So, I told him. He didnt believe me until I described a tattoo in a somewhat intimate place on her body. I had no fucking clue she was married. I think I ruined someone’s marriage. Or at least took part in ruining one.
I feel guilty. I am sorry for what I participated in. Am I a bad person?
You didn’t do anything wrong and people here trying to scold you for that is bullshit. I’ve been cheated on before, more than once and it feels like shit. You have trust issues for years and it craters your self esteem.
There are no reasons to cheat on someone. And she has kids? C’mon now. I’m not trying to hear any excuses. If she had disclosed all of that and everyone was informed then it wouldn’t have been a problem but obviously you didn’t know, and blaming you for things you couldn’t possibly know is also bullshit.