• GarbageShoot [he/him]@hexbear.netEnglish
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    1 month ago

    but their shittiness is not a necessary part of manhood and they can be educated out of it.

    So, I think the other person’s statement has problems, but I would argue that shittiness is a necessary part of manhood, and the degree that someone is a part of “manhood” is the degree that it is impossible for them to not be shitty. They can be educated out of that shittiness, but it requires educating them out of manhood. That is much of the reason that people call for the destruction of gender, because there is an inherent shittiness to it that it makes all of its members take part in.

    I would say something similar about womanhood, if only because womanhood demands the existence of manhood.

    • Are_Euclidding_Me [e/em/eir]@hexbear.netEnglish
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      1 month ago

      I sort of agree in that I very much would like to abolish gender, I don’t think it’s a super helpful framework to have so heavily embedded in society and in how humans interact with each other. On the other hand, I’m wary of equating manhood with shittiness, because there are (a) non-shitty men and (b) people who actively choose manhood. I’m simply unwilling to say that a trans man is actively choosing to be a shitty human by virtue of choosing to be a man. That doesn’t seem right to me, there’s something drawing trans men to manhood, and I do not believe it’s as simple as wanting to be a misogynist.

      • GarbageShoot [he/him]@hexbear.netEnglish
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        1 month ago

        there are (a) non-shitty men

        If you mean not shitty on the whole, I’d agree. If you mean immaculate, I would disagree. Manhood makes people worse. There are good men, but they are good in spite of being men not because of or with no relation to their manhood.

        I’m simply unwilling to say that a trans man is actively choosing to be a shitty human by virtue of choosing to be a man. That doesn’t seem right to me, there’s something drawing trans men to manhood, and I do not believe it’s as simple as wanting to be a misogynist.

        You might remember that I said that womanhood is also shitty. I don’t think a trans man is choosing to be shittier, but I think they certainly aren’t avoiding being shitty any more than cis people are.