• Are_Euclidding_Me [e/em/eir]@hexbear.netEnglish
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    1 month ago

    I sort of agree in that I very much would like to abolish gender, I don’t think it’s a super helpful framework to have so heavily embedded in society and in how humans interact with each other. On the other hand, I’m wary of equating manhood with shittiness, because there are (a) non-shitty men and (b) people who actively choose manhood. I’m simply unwilling to say that a trans man is actively choosing to be a shitty human by virtue of choosing to be a man. That doesn’t seem right to me, there’s something drawing trans men to manhood, and I do not believe it’s as simple as wanting to be a misogynist.

    • GarbageShoot [he/him]@hexbear.netEnglish
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      1 month ago

      there are (a) non-shitty men

      If you mean not shitty on the whole, I’d agree. If you mean immaculate, I would disagree. Manhood makes people worse. There are good men, but they are good in spite of being men not because of or with no relation to their manhood.

      I’m simply unwilling to say that a trans man is actively choosing to be a shitty human by virtue of choosing to be a man. That doesn’t seem right to me, there’s something drawing trans men to manhood, and I do not believe it’s as simple as wanting to be a misogynist.

      You might remember that I said that womanhood is also shitty. I don’t think a trans man is choosing to be shittier, but I think they certainly aren’t avoiding being shitty any more than cis people are.