• Egon [they/them]@hexbear.net
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    She literally didn’t. With the text we see the phrasing is “he is not someone I would hook up with or fwb with, but marry”.
    The reason it is interpreted as it is is specifically because she isn’t saying he is all that and more, but just someone you can marry but not hookup with.
    She probably intended the other phrasing, but that’s not what she said, which is why he reacted as he did.

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      3 months ago

      Then if she literally didn’t then y’all have done impressive some mental gymnastics to arrive at the conclusion of “she thinks he isn’t attractive” lmao

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        No we haven’t, stop being dismissing and condescending just because you disagree.
        Also stop trying to gaslight me with calling a straightforward explanation “Impressive mental gymnastics” you toad

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          3 months ago

          LMAO at “straightforward explanations”.

          “I’d spend my life with you” means “I don’t find you attractive”.

          • Egon [they/them]@hexbear.net
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            3 months ago

            “I’d spend my life with you” means “I don’t find you attractive”.

            That’s also not what she said according to the text which we are all arguing from. You are being willfully obtuse

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            That really is not the part of the comment that’s in question as being hurtful. It is the preceding, “I would not fuck you”. There is still an understanding that they would fuck in the context of knowing each other, etc. But is it really not just a little bit not great to hear your partner say something that amounts to, “If you were just like somebody who meant nothing to me and I was evaluating in physical terms, I wouldn’t hit that shit”? And I’ll reiterate, I don’t think that was the intended meaning, certainly not the intended main point. But, as continues to be demonstrated, there are a whole fuck lot of men who would interpret this remark as calling them ugly.