• Diuretic_Materialism [he/him]@hexbear.net
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    3 months ago

    I’ve encountered a weird thing with some sexual partners where they seem to think it’s shallow to acknowledge that they find you physically attractive as well as emotionally attractive.

    But like, it’s a sexual relationship, are bodies are part of it, it’d be weird if we were plutonic friends but enjoying each others bodies is part of our relationship here so I don’t see how it’s shallow for us to express our enjoyment of each others bodies to one another.

    • Egon [they/them]@hexbear.net
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      3 months ago

      Yeah it’s odd. I think there’s also something going on here that a lot of people seem to be (willfully) obtuse about which is that it’s not looks, but sexual attraction that is being discussed.
      I see some people arguing against the guys reaction because “attraction isn’t just looks”, and yeah everyone knows that, which is why it makes it so much more hurtful to say you wouldn’t consider your partner for a sexual relationship.