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  • BountifulEggnog [she/her]@hexbear.net
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    1 month ago

    lol.

    It is really funny, and I am envious of them and you, and most people tbh at least a little bit. I just don’t want anyone transitioning younger to feel weird I guess, especially since I feel like I heard one of them say that. Very rad though.

      • Hexagons [e/em/eir]@hexbear.net
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        Interestingly, I’m glad I didn’t realize I was trans earlier than I did! I was like 27, partway through grad school, had good health insurance and a supportive environment (including the best partner ever, love that guy), my parents couldn’t say shit, and I’d already spent years living as a woman, interrogating what womanhood meant to me, before deciding I didn’t want it. (Don’t want manhood either, my gender is “no thank you, I’m good”.)

        Sure, I maybe could have avoided some pain and awkwardness if I’d realized I was trans sooner. On the other hand, as cool as my parents are, I don’t think they would have let me transition as a kid and that would have been a whole different level of hell I don’t think I would have dealt with very well. And given the conservative area we lived in, the bullying would have been off the charts, and I was already bullied. No thanks.

        Also, I kind of like the empathy and understanding of women that living for so long as one has given me. I know from personal experience what it’s like to be a woman in a male-dominated profession, and if I’d transitioned earlier I wouldn’t have had that same experience.

        I’m glad I’ve transitioned, I’m much more myself now, but I don’t mind having lived 27 or so years of my life as a woman, it was alright. A mask and a performance, yes, but an enlightening one that usually wasn’t too constricting.

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          I feel that a lot actually. I grew up in the 80s and 90s, transitioning as a kid would’ve been outright impossible back then unless my parents would’ve moved the entire family to the Netherlands or smth. That was the only place where that was a possibility back then. And i seriously struggle to think of a way i could’ve dealt with knowing that i was trans in the early 00s. Like, i could see this working out in my favor if we’re talking some time travel scenario where i go back knowing all that i know rn, but if i had to navigate the nightmare levels of medical gatekeeping that existed back then on my own, without prior knowledge, at a time where my sexuality automatically made me inelligible from receiving any gender affirming care, my life would’ve just been constant unsolveable dysphoria with no way out.

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            Trans healthcare before informed consent was commonplace was soooo fucked. I’m glad my first therapist was willing to lie about “Real Life Experience” for me.

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              Informed consent still isn’t commonplace outside of the US and Canada, btw. I still had to get letters from a psychologist to access any gender affirming care, the barriers are just lower now.

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            I grew up in the 80s and 90s

            Same, I knew I was different, found out from the crying game basically…that similar people to me existed then spent the rest of the 90s trying to avoid the transphobia

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                It’s a bad 90s movie that got way too much traction and sparked a ton of transphobia through the 90s.

                It’s a prime example of a shock twist surprise transgender reveal, plenty of them going back… Ace Ventura parodies it.