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  • 🏳️‍⚧️ 新星 [she/they]
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    3 months ago

    I’ve been growing out my hair from a denial buzz cut for about 7 months (obviously for trans reasons).

    My mom (who I think would be accepting but I’m not ready to come out to yet) has suggested I get a haircut. To be fair, it’s not a bad idea since my hairstyle is currently just fluff, and I can’t keep up the rejecting after having kept it short my whole life while also having no clue about the hairstyle I actually want (how am I supposed to pick something that isn’t genderfuckery?)

    What kind of style can I get at a barber (not outing myself obviously) with wavy/curly hair that I can still use to boymode as a college student that also allows me to keep growing some length?

    Sorry for dumping this, don’t know anywhere else to ask 🥺

      • 🏳️‍⚧️ 新星 [she/they]
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        Can go with messy style with short sides?

        Hmmm, the problem with this one is that my younger brother is doing something similar but the back is really short too like the sides, like you might see in an image search for that. I’m not opposed to the style, but is there a way to pull it off without losing the length?

        • magi [null/void]@hexbear.net
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          You could ask to have the sides and back done with a longer guard to begin with and just let your hair grow out a bit that way? soviet-hmm

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      There are guys with long hair too though so it’s like less of a “red flag” to cis people, more the styling. But if it’s just growing it out longish, curls for cis guys is still a pretty common sight.

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        Yeah, thankfully this is the case. I just literally don’t know how I want to style it (because my real answers aren’t very cis), hence the question

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          Yeah I cut my own hair and I’m not that knowledgeable about the correct names of styles, but hopefully you’ll get a few options here c:

      • 🏳️‍⚧️ 新星 [she/they]
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        3 months ago

        I honestly never knew my hair wasn’t straight because I’d never had it long enough to know otherwise (sounds familiar…). AFAIK now there’s not much straight about me ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)

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          3 months ago

          Same! Just curious, do you know how to take care of curly hair? I had to relearn my entire hair care routine and styling tech when I found out

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            I don’t exactly know how to take care of hair in general (being a “guy” doesn’t exactly help) but my mom at least got me combs that are meant for curlier hair now that we’ve found this out. She’s definitely the parent my brother and I inherited it from (although I just never thought about it because she uses a flat iron)

    • naom3 [she/her]@hexbear.net
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      3 months ago

      Just seconding that if you want to keep your length you should find a salon or hairstylist instead of a barber. I’ve had multiple bad experiences with barbers just being incapable of not cutting my hair short aubrey-rage-cry

      Also, if you’re worried about outing yourself I went to hairdressers for years before transitioning and no-one said anything

    • nemmybun [she/her]@hexbear.net
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      3 months ago

      I’d search curly shag or curly wolf cut styles and save any images that you think would fit with your face shape and features to show your stylist. Also if possible, this might be a good time to find a salon/hairdresser that you like. You’ll have better results with your haircut at a salon vs a barber