I hope everyone had a great week! Hang out. Chat. Talk about what’s going on. Have fun :3

  • SnowySkyes [she/her]@hexbear.netOPM
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    8 months ago

    Posting from my hospital room this week. Hope everyone is doing well.

    CW: Talking about bottom surgery and some other icky things

    This week has been such a fantastic one for me. I got my bottom surgery done last Friday and I’m still in the hospital recovering from it. It has done an astronomical amount of good for me already and I still haven’t seen it. I am calmer. I feel as through the weight of the world has been lifted off my shoulders. I feel at peace for the first time in…ever I think. Like, I have been able to just sit here and pass out for no reason whatsoever. For most that sounds whatever, but I have never been able to do that. I’m smiling huge and wide and nothing can bring this girl down. I feel AMAZING!!!

    That said, there have been things I wasn’t expecting. Like for one, it feels like my scrotum has been scrunched, stretched out, and lain over a canvas. My dickhead feels like it’s being crushed and in 3 different places. And at times, if eels like my entire old package was collapsed into a singularity. It’s so weird. I just need to remind myself that they don’t exist anymore. :)

    Gods. What a fucking week. aubrey-happy

  • RedQuestionAsker2 [he/him, she/her]@hexbear.net
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    -explaining to a gamer-

    Okay, you know how sometimes you start a game, and you have to pick a build, but nobody really tells you anything about it, so you just pick the one that is recommended and looks easy? But after some time, you realize that you aren’t having fun with that build, but people around are used to you playing that build? You want to respec, but respeccing costs money, and once you respec, there’s gonna be a long period of you being really bad at playing your new build?. It’s like that.

  • Ho_Chi_Chungus [she/her]@hexbear.net
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    8 months ago

    Gay for boys, straight for girls hexbear-bi-2

    sadness man why does this suck what gives

    trans-uno

    Gay Straight for boys, straight gay for girls hexbear-bi-2

    blob-no-thoughts oh wait this is much better now

  • SnowySkyes [she/her]@hexbear.netOPM
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    8 months ago

    Still recovering. Will be going home later today, but I still have trapped gas in my shoulders causing me severe pain when I need to move. Also developed some nausea over the past 24 hours. Feeling generally unwell. Not sure if normal or something I should alert someone about.

      • SnowySkyes [she/her]@hexbear.netOPM
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        8 months ago

        I managed to earlier. Apparently it’s fairly common for a while post-op, so I’m going to continue as normal for the time being.

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          can confirm, it shouldnt go on for too long but yeah your body is recovering - used to have to take anti-nausea tablets for a few weeks after

          also happy to answer any other questions around being post-op if you did have any! i’m about 5 years post trans-heart also congrats, glad things went well by the sounds of it !! Care-Comrade

  • Yor [she/her]@hexbear.net
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    8 months ago

    Rolling my eyes into the back of my head when I see transfems on reddit unironically saying hrt changes sexuality

    lea-why

    • charly4994 [she/her, comrade/them]@hexbear.net
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      Saw people talking about it on trans forums back in the late 00s and how it was a real thing and it freaked me out. Being over a decade into it at this point though I’d argue my sexuality is not different but I just know more details about it. At 16 it’s pretty easy to be like “I like girls,” paired with internalized homophobia and transphobia then going “I like girls thus I’m only into cis women.” Once you take a hammer to some of the foundational parts of your identity it’s a lot easier to reexamine some of those broad statements you made as a teen and find that maybe you’re a bit more flexible than you thought or sometimes you push a bit too far and find that actually you’re still not into guys even if they’re easier to hit up because chasers are easy early validation when you’re stuck in a dark place.

      • Yor [she/her]@hexbear.net
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        There’s no basis for it at all. Transitioning just generally helps people realize things about themselves they may not have before. Some people get very weird and defensive though when it’s pointed out that HRT doesn’t do that shrug-outta-hecks

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          to be fair, this may feel like one’s sexuality being changed by HRT, especially for the more extreme cases where someone’s sexuality fully flips after they come to terms with their gender. and then when you mix in the average redditor level of self-awareness…

          for instance, it took me accepting myself as nonbinary and opening up to my own emotions via HRT to also accept myself as a lesbian who could aesthetically appreciate the male form, rather than a bisexual man.

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          I haven’t heard anyone say that HRT doesn’t change sexuality before but I sure hope it doesn’t. Suddenly being no longer attracted to women might be the one of the few things that would make me detransition.

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            i think maybe its more that they need a rationalisation for why they were seemingly unengaged with their sexuality previously - also that a lot of people generally lack self-awareness of their sexuality, especially if you spend your time pre-transition trying your hardest to fit the mold

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    about a week before i was able to come out to myself as trans my dear trans femme friend sent me this poem to look over. i remember being moved by the second paragraph, but i couldn’t make any sense of the third

    it all really is too clear now