• sammer510 [none/use name]@hexbear.net
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    Hard to argue with. I’m 28 and work at a warehouse and the guys I’m friendly with on a surface level just to kinda be personable will say some shockingly homophobic and misogynistic things if you listen to them talk long enough. Like I can’t be friends with these guys, not really.

    Conversely, I met this really cool guy the other day at a rockhound meet up who was super chill and left. He goes diving for jade in Big Sur and was super into scallops so I traded him some marine shell fossil conglomerates and lapidary slabs and polished agate nodules for chunks of jade and some weed. Me and my partner just vibed with him and his buddy and it was great. Guys that cool are few and far between unfortunately.

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      some shockingly homophobic and misogynistic things

      I don’t think this has gotten substantially worse since the 1950s or whenever there wasn’t a “male loneliness epidemic”.

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        Edit: missing preface being that you’re probably right but there used to be a satisfying if not effective form of redress to make them shit the fuck up

        It used to be socially acceptable to fight a man if one felt he was crossing a line. These days that’s still true in some cases. Not enough.

        Like, honor societies had many many problems, but god damn I have some chuds coworkers I would legitimately duel for things they’ve said about women and me (fully closeted at work, present fully masc and don’t discuss dating at all).

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                Nm, I was wrong about thought I said duel for some reason. You’re right, getting beat up sucks I’ve had that before and didn’t care for it. Luckily these dudes are unhealthy af. Like not making it to 65 unless they make changes.

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                  I’d make it legal for you to fight those guys. I’d just wanna close that door after. If anyone can fuel anyone, at least one of them may have a grandkid thst would vendetta you and you’d have to make him sail to America and become The Godfather.

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                    I welcome the blood fued, I don’t plan on having kids. Send me your descendants Chud! /joke

                    Thanks for the cool headedness/ letting me vent a bit. I need the job too much to do/say anything really and it sucks

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                    Ignore the cover, this man in question is 3-4 inches taller and 100+ pounds heavier + he smokes + he has a meat heavy diet (works in the deli and gets lots of freebies). He’d have a coronary trying to run the same mile as me let alone a combat situation

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      Conversely, I met this really cool guy the other day at a rockhound meet up…some weed

      i don’t think i understood a word of this after ‘other day’, and that fucking rocks. the dudes are alright, if they’re into… uhhh geology i think

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      the guys I’m friendly with on a surface level just to kinda be personable will say some shockingly homophobic and misogynistic things if you listen to them talk long enough

      One of the biggest reasons I quit my job in a male-dominated trade was the casual racism and sexism that they would drop like it was normal. Like we’d just be talking about whatever random bullshit we were on and they’d just spew some racist bullshit and continue on like nothing. I was cordial with the guys there but I still happily took a massive pay cut to work in a less male dominated workplace