I’m into a co-worker. Nothing indicates he’s interested or even into guys, but I’m bad at reading social cues. He knows I’m not straight and we talk regularly at work.
It feels like it’s obvious I like him, but again, social cues. I was thinking about saying something direct and just being honest, but I don’t want to stress him out. I don’t expect him to like me back, but that would be great.
I guess I’m asking how uncool is it to communicate that to someone at work?
Edit - I just wanted to say thanks and I hear what a lot of you are saying. I was under the assumption that being around someone you like and not telling them you like them is dishonest and unfair. It turns out I need to reevaluate some things about myself.
I need to be careful and I don’t want to risk making work worse for me/alienate another person who’s trying to work in peace.
I’m just glad I got to talk about the feeling somewhere shit once. Thanks again!
ask if they are straight just say “what kinda person are you into” and if hes not specific say “i mean like guys, girls, ect”. if you can make a joke about it do it like “guys, girls, giant blue alien yetis?”. this is the most important step. and if they are interested in guys say either in the moments or a few days later if he would like to go on a date, you have to say the word date or else you may end up on an excruciatingly platonic outing. oh and if hes queer but in the closet i would run. dating a closet case will destroy you body and soul and reduce you to nothing, a shadow a secret, a memory of the person you once were.