Fellow Hexbearians,

I was thinking about how embarrassing it is to ask questions about things that seem obvious, so why not make a thread here? We can pool our understanding and clear up any misconceptions we picked up living in a world not built for neurodiverse people.

Ask questions about things you don’t understand that might seem obvious. If there are things you do understand in someone else’s question, please do so and help clear it up.

I ask that we ask and answer questions sincerely. This is a discussion about confusion and trying to understand. I think it would feel safer if we don’t think we’re being mocked or trolled.

I’ll put a comment in the thread to get things rolling.

  • Magician [he/him, they/them]@hexbear.netOP
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    10 months ago

    How easy is it for you to memorize quotes? I have such a hard time with it unless I read it and practice it.

    But I hear people all the time quote lines with the same inflection all the time. They don’t seem to type to read and study and I was wondering if that comes easy to people or if this is a skill issue on my part.

    The same applies for remembering several things at once like a shopping list

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      10 months ago

      I believe most people do have to make a conscious effort to memorize something. Whether or not they care to get the exact wording or inflection right depends on how important it is to them. Of course some people are naturally gifted at things like this.

      I had a friend in college who could quote an entire movie almost verbatim after one drunken viewing. He also could never remember where he put his keys. Seriously one time he threw them away.

      • Magician [he/him, they/them]@hexbear.netOP
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        10 months ago

        That’s interesting. I think I have a vibes-based memorizing style, if that makes sense. I can memorize a melody perfectly or summarize something I read or watch, but I can’t recall minute details.

        I guess it’s a prioritizing thing. I try to get the general idea and I try not to focus on details like precise wording.

    • Rojo27 [he/him]@hexbear.net
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      10 months ago

      I’ve always had a really hard time remembering song lyrics. So much so that whenever I’m asked about a favorite song people get annoyed at me for not remembering much. Remembering some lines from a movie or something I read tends to be easier for me so maybe it’s like a visual v. auditory memorization sort of thing.

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          10 months ago

          Same. Probably because I have an undiagnosed hearing processing disorder. I can hear a pin drop three miles away but I can’t watch a Christopher Nolan movie without subtitles.

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              10 months ago

              How in the world was I able to understand Bane perfectly? Like what the actual fuck?

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                10 months ago

                If I had to guess, the effects they added to his voice actually make it easier to hear, if only because it can now penetrate the background noise

        • Magician [he/him, they/them]@hexbear.netOP
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          That’s interesting, I’m on the opposite end. I can give you a summary of the song and vibes and memorize the melody, but I can’t remember exact words to save my life

      • Magician [he/him, they/them]@hexbear.netOP
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        I think it’s an auditory issue for me too. I can read things and recite, but I can never hear song lyrics on the first go around of just listening. I have to read the lyrics later to understand what they’re about.

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      Im pretty good with quotes if I enjoy the source material. Mind you I talk with myself and repeat the things I want to say and how I want to say them. I often plan my day/weeks outloud. Or I prep that way for talking with people about certain topics.

      If I need to buy many things like at a supermarket for dinner for example I simply make a physical shopping list before I go shopping. That way I dont forget anything.

      No idea how people remember stuff that isnt “important to them” though im with you on that. Like I have a ton of knowledge about things I care about. But If Im not invested in something I find it busywork to remember stuff as well.

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        It’s funny, I don’t talk out loud a lot because I grew up with eavesdroppers. I’ve considered doing it to practice what I’m going to say or to plan things out. I listen to audiobooks more than read, so maybe it’ll help me figure out how to sort some stuff.

        And I guess shopping lists are fine. I just sometimes see movies where characters memorize crazy minute details. I know it’s fiction, but I never know a good baseline.

        But If Im not invested in something I find it busywork to remember stuff as well.

        Me when someone wants to play another new boardgame with complicated rules only once.

    • ashinadash [she/her]@hexbear.net
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      I’m pretty bad, I will grab the gist of a quote, but I can literally look at a page and then go to write it down, and my brain has already replaced/substituted similar words in places. I gotta work hard to get the wording down.